This is going to sting a little friends...
You don’t deserve to accomplish your goals if you are not doing everything it takes to achieve them.
If you are telling yourself that you want something more than anything else in the world, but you aren’t doing anything to make it happen, then you are lying to yourself.
You don’t want it more than anything else.
You don’t want it more than you want to go out on a Friday night instead of hunkering down.
You don’t want it more than mustering through the temporary feelings of uncomfortableness you may feel while trying to accomplish it.
And you certainly don’t want it more than anything else in the world. People that want things that badly, tend to get them. I’m sorry, and this might seem harsh, but it’s true.
Confession:
I am all talk. I wish for all these things to happen to me, and hope for all these things to become a part of my life and I just keep on telling everyone about all these dreams of mine.
About what I am “going to do”, about the things "I want to do”.
I started noticing that conversations about my goals and dreams all started that way, every single time I talked about them. I was never halfway through the process of starting anything, and I was never in the middle of accomplishing it. I was always just at the beginning, still talking about “what I was going to do”.
This year something clicked for me. I started reminding myself that I am worth it, that my future was worth it. That every choice I made had a consequence, good or bad.
We are always telling ourselves how much we want something, "we want this for our lives", "we want that for our lives". We always recognize that there will be hard work involved and it is because we acknowledge all the hard work and sacrifice required things tend to stay just pipe dreams.
What does that say about you though? That you so fully believe you don’t have the willpower or the drive? That you already know you can’t sacrifice, that you already know you won’t be able to handle the hard stuff or bare the anxiety, so why even start trying?
Why do that to yourself? Why are you spending all day long complaining about how your life isn't "where you though it would be by now"? You have the power to change that, right now! Its cruel and the only person responsible for making you feel this way is yourself.
During college I wanted to land my first “big girl” job more than anything else in the world. I had prepared for it, I had followed all the steps that were set out for me...and that was as far as it went. Never anything more.
I would get invited to so many networking events that were being held on a Saturday night but I didn’t want to miss a night out with my friends to go solo to a "school event" so I would skip it. I would skip something that would, potentially, really help me out post graduation.
This was the mindset of the girl who “wanted it more than anything else.”
I read a quote the other day that struck a chord for me harder than anything else has before.
The most important thing is this: to be able at any moment - to sacrifice what you are, for what you will become.
- Charles Dubois
Recently, something happened with my mentality. I stopped worrying about what others thought. I stopped doing half-ass work. I started pushing myself to be better, I had goals.
I wanted to take myself professionally to the next level, I wanted to wake up every single day and be better, no, I wanted to be the absolute greatest version of myself I could possibly muster up each and every day.
I wanted to be recognized for my work and the effort I put into each task. I wanted my boss and colleagues to see how hard I was going push myself to be better than I had been.
Prior to these feelings I very quickly learned that half-ass work and half-ass effort is rewarded with half-ass results and a half-ass life.
I didn’t want that. So I changed my mindset. It worked.
It’s interesting how easily things can come to you when you start giving a damn about yourself and your future over anything else.
Setting big goals for yourself comes with a laundry list sacrifices you have to make. They come with a proverbial checklist of things “wrong with you” that you must change in order to be great.
If you are not willing to make those "changes", you don’t deserve the rewards that would come with. If you aren't willing to do something you’ve never done before to have that one thing you've always wanted then you don’t deserve the feelings of jubilation that come with that achievement.
So picture your goal in your head, visualize your dream. Does your effort match what it will take to get there?
Think about it like this…
If you want to fly to the moon, you have to do more than just figure out where it is in the sky, point to it and say, "I want to go there someday". Just knowing where it is isn’t going to get you there. No matter how quickly you can spot it in the sky, you’re still just pointing at it from the ground.
