I’m 21-Years-Old And I Have Never Been On One Date Or Kissed And I’m Okay With That

I’m 21-Years-Old And I Have Never Been On One Date Or Kissed And I’m Okay With That

I also do not want to date for the “experience”.

I’m 21 years old and I have never been kissed. Now before you start assuming that this is going to lead into a whole spiel on how I haven’t found the “one” it is actually a different scenario. I’m 21 years old and I have never been kissed and I’m okay with that. Being single is one of my strongest character traits that I put on job applications actually; it’s also another empty box for my lack of experience.

I’m 21 years old and I have never been on one date and I’m okay with that. My life is spent between school, work, and home. By the time I finish my day, all I want to do is lay in my bed and be to myself at home. I barely have time for friends. Where on earth would I find time to squeeze a boyfriend into that schedule?

I’m 21 years old and I would like to be in a relationship but even if I’m not in one I’m okay with that. My life doesn’t start once I found the “one”. I also do not want to date for the “experience”. It’s not like my current boyfriend will need to contact my previous relationship references to see if I’m a fit candidate for the job.

It’s a weird predicament that I am in. I want someone but then again I don’t want someone. It would be nice to have someone to talk to but honestly, I can talk to anyone. I want to be the person going through the “honeymoon” phase of a relationship but then again I hate the whole mushy romance love thing. Okay, so maybe this is the real reason I’m single.

My age and lack of experience should not be looked down on. Some of us just do not move as fast as other people. I didn’t know that dating and marriage also had a biological time clock for women; I was taught that was just in relation to having kids. I have some friends who had their first “boyfriend” in first grade but I also have some acquaintances that didn’t get married until they were in their forties.

In 2014, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics 124.6 million Americans, 16 years and older were single or unmarried. Who knew being single was of such importance? I not only have a chance but I also have time until I as the young folk say “settle down”.

But honestly will someone please bite the bullet and date me? Or not I’m fine either way.

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Why I Spend So Much Time With My Boyfriend

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Many people think that spending too much time with your significant other is a bad thing. I think that wanting to spend time with them is a blessing. Don't get me wrong, we do not spend every waking minute together. We make sure that we save time for our friends and family, but in the end, we cherish our time together.

He brings out the best in me. When I first met my boyfriend, I knew he was something special. I didn't know what it was, but I knew that it would be important someday. I found out that when I am with him, I am an all-around happier person. I look at things in different ways, and I now know a whole new world of people. He has helped me overcome obstacles that have been holding me back for quite some time.

We enjoy each others company. I can't even begin to tell you how many times we have just sat in silence simply knowing that you are in the company of someone who loves you is comforting. He makes things that would usually be boring a lot more fun. When we do homework together, he makes the work seem like it's not work, and things like a simple trip to Walmart ends up being a comedy show.

We are best friends. Many people say that they are best friends with their significant other. For us, it's true. I can tell him anything. There is no hiding things in our relationship; we come right out and say what we want to say.

He pushes me to succeed. Whether it is with weight loss or homework, he holds me accountable. When I start a new workout, he keeps me on track to be whom I want to be. We make sure that we put homework before going out and that helps us in the long run. Giving up that pizza can be easy when you are spending time with someone you love.

He makes life seem not so hard. College can be hard and make life difficult. It seems that I always have something new happening or another meeting to attend. When I get stressed or overwhelmed, he makes sure that I take the time to put into perspective what really matters and focus on that. And when that fails, we go get McDonald's.

He supports me. He has never once told me that one of my ideas was stupid or out of reach. Whenever something new comes up that I think would be exciting, he is the first one to rally behind me and let me know that it is a good idea (even if it's not).

I love him. Love is a strong word, but I can honestly say I have never felt like this before. Between everything that he does for me, I do just as much for him simply because I love seeing him happy. Spending so much time together isn't hard to do because we love each other. If somewhere down the road we decide to split ways, I will still love him and he will still love me. That will never go away.

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