"Because you aren't just someone I loved back then. You were my best friend, my best self, and I can't imagine giving that up again... You might not understand, but I gave you the best of me, and after you left, nothing was ever the same."
- Nicholas Sparks, The Best of Me
An open letter to the girl or boy who loved with everything they had. To the girl or boy who gave the best and worst parts of themselves to the person they believed they would be with forever. Who in return was only left with small pieces, small pieces of their worst parts while he or she took away with them the best parts of you. This is why you should fight....
True love isn't something that we come across every day. True love and falling in love are the same thing. It's an enchanting experience that only happens once in a lifetime, an experience that some people aren't even lucky enough to have. When you're in love the world looks so open and full of light and adventure and opportunities. Love doesn't do that. Love helps us to appreciate what we have in front of us. Love shows us beauty, poise, strength and courage. Being in love shows us flaws, disagreements, trust, stress, tears... Being in love shows us someone at their most raw form. It isn't loving because you're told to or believing because someone else told you to. Being in love is treasuring the small gestures that you both share, Being in love is looking forward to seeing the other person for five minutes simply because you know those five minutes will be the best part of your day. Being in love is what makes the world you see so beautiful.
If you've read The Best of Me by Nicholas Sparks, you already know what its about. If you haven't read it... Basically he tells a story of an unlikely couple of teenagers who fall in love with each other under the gravest of terms. Despite their circumstances, the two make the best of the time they have together. In just a short period of time, they grow together, learn from each other and live a love that most of us can only dream about. When circumstances of life separate the two, they go years without contact. She moves on with a man she cannot fully love but marries anyway... and he never finds another woman he can love as much as he loved her. The two are brought back together in a weird twist of fate many years later and are left to choose between their current lives or trying to rekindle a love that existed when they were teenagers.
Don't be like this. Real life and real love isn't as romantic or played out in time as well as it appears to be within the books and the movies. We don't have screen writers or directors or musicians to play "our song" when we meet the love of our life for the first time. All we have is right now. In right now, we have what we feel and what we know. If you feel sparks when you're around this person and those sparks don't die no matter how much time or how much pain has gone on between the two of you, don't give up on that love.
If you see a future with someone... If you believe this person will make you happy and challenge you and believe in you and chase your wildest dreams with you, don't give up on that love.
If you're looking for this person in every other guy or girl you meet (whichever you are attracted to)... and by this I mean small thoughts about "oh, "insert name" used to love to visit this spot, or order black coffee, or go to church on Sundays, or watch the Walking Dead on Sundays"... DO NOT GIVE UP ON THAT LOVE.
If you can't get this person off of your mind, no matter how hard you try. If you try to move on and you can't seem to still get this person out of your mind, do not give up on that love.
And finally, if you know in your heart what the two of you had together and you know it was real... I mean real. Like the real deal as in can't live, can't breathe, can't sleep without them but you're still having to every day... Well for one you're a strong individual so I am proud of you... but two... you are in love. Being in love is the one thing you will never have to question in this lifetime. If you never question what the two of you had together... Even after all of the pain and suffering that might have occurred (no matter what anyone else says or thinks!) do not, I repeat, do not give up on that love.
Right now (at the time I have finished this article) there are 7,447,472,934 people alive on this Earth. (For all you One Tree Hill fans...) "There are 7,447,472,934 people on this Earth and sometimes... you just need one." If you have met that one person, if you have fallen in love, if you know that's the love of your life... If your life hasn't been the same since the moment they left... Go find him or her and tell them that you love them. We've only one chance in this world to find true love, some of us don't even have that many. If you've found that person and they're gone, go find them, go fight for them, and never, ever give up. Love is the only thing that matters.
