You're Never Fully Over Your First Love And That's OK
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You're Never Fully Over Your First Love And That's OK

It takes time, so take your time.

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You're Never Fully Over Your First Love And That's OK
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Finally, you've found someone to spend the rest of your life with. Someone that you can be yourself 110% around. Someone that makes you laugh. Someone that picks you up when you're down. Someone that you can grow with. Someone that is your absolute best friend. Someone your friends and family love. Someone you can have endless conversations with and never get bored. Someone that even after three years can still give you butterflies. Then, BOOM, it's over. You've lost a best friend and a relationship and maybe even a future.

Do you still cringe when someone brings up your relationship? Does it still hurt when someone says "Wow, I really thought you all were going to be the ones to last." And all you can think to yourself is "yeah, me too." Do you still wake up every day and check your Timehop and see your witty comments back and forth to one another on Twitter or see photos from Valentine's Day two years ago or prom and your heart sink a little? You're not the only one. Everyone has that someone they never truly get over.

I think in today's world we start a relationship with someone and we think it is going to last for forever. If they weren't already, they become your best friend. You do absolutely everything together. Trips to the grocery store become road trips of non-stop singing and laughing with each other, dinner dates become nights in watching your favorite TV re-runs on Netflix and eating tons of pizza or Bdubs. Their t-shirts become your favorite article of clothing. When they've been in your dorm for the weekend and leave the smell of their cologne smells up the room for days. You can do everything for that person, and it still isn't good enough. You will blame yourself. Know it is not you, it is not you at all. If you have done everything and tried your best, you gave it your all and that's all you can do. Once that's gone, it's like a piece of you is missing. I know it sounds crazy to say that, but when you think you truly have a future with someone, and then it's suddenly ripped out of your hands, that's exactly what it feels like.

Maybe now you're at that point in your life where you're in college and all of your friends are getting engaged or they are getting married and you're thinking "that was supposed to be me." I know falling in love at the age of sixteen may not seem like a possibility for some, but for others, it becomes a whole life. In my life, both grandparents and my parents all met as teenagers and were married or have been together ever since then.

Today's society is all about DM's and if someone doesn't text you back they don't care about you. Why does it have to be that way? Why did it change? I think this plays a big role in why a lot of this generations relationships do not last because everyone has eyes for everyone. Social media is telling you it's okay to have whoever you want when you want. I know that isn't what I want.

The old saying is "You never know what you have until it's gone." That isn't the case for everyone, but I can tell you one thing, people will take you for granted, especially the ones you love the most. I know this isn't new news, but remember that.

Maybe now you can go a couple months without talking, maybe even a year or two, but the second someone brings them up or you see them it's like you've lost control of all of your emotions in your body. You'll begin to remember everything. The good, the bad, the amazing, the tears, the laughs, the arguments, the ugly, and whatever else comes over you. Do you really truly ever get over that? Is it ever going to end?

After being with someone for a long period of time and planning out a future together and then it's over, you begin to wonder if you're going to find someone like that ever again. Well let me tell you something: they will come back or someone is out there that is better for you. Point, blank, period.

I read something the other day that really stuck with me it reads as follows: "Everything heals. Your body heals. Your heart heals. Your mind heals. Your happiness is going to come back. Bad times don't last." Being a Christian, I am a very strong believer that we do not meet people for no reason. I believe everyone that we cross paths with has a purpose in our lives. Everyone is here to teach us something. Heartbreak is something I never want to wish on anyone and I wish I never had to be taught how to deal with it, but I know there's a reason for it.

God will never bring me through something I cannot get through. Love is one of His greatest gifts and I know I am blessed to have experienced it.

It is OK that you never truly get over your first love. Yes, someone is going to tell you that you're stupid and that he's stupid and that you need to get over him, but it takes time. Take your time. Everything happens for a reason.

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