Ladies, let me ask you something. Would you rather be a doormat or the trophy? Would you rather be walked over, or shown off? I don't know about you, but I would rather be pursued and know that a man is interested in me than have a man with me just because he knows I would do anything to keep him. I want someone to work for my heart.

I know what you are thinking. The guy that you have been spending time with lately has all the goods. He has the looks, the personality, and the charming smile that makes you blush. But you have recently noticed that he has not been reaching out to you like you have been reaching out to him. You suddenly start having the thoughts, "Am I not good enough for him?" You may even start wondering, "What can I do to make him fall into me?" Well, I am here to tell you that you are good enough for him. You are even better than just good enough.

However, there is no need to chase after that boy. I have always been the girl who has been chased. But all that changed whenever I reached college. The guys are different. The guys would have different thoughts than I would. I will admit it that I began chasing after boys. I chased after who I thought I wanted. However, after all the chasing I realized that I was chasing after the wrong guys. Not just that, I was chasing when I should have been chased.

I had a conversation with a guy one night while we were on a date. We got into talking about chasing after people, and being chased. I made the comment that I would rather be pursued, and that I would no longer chase after someone. He tried to convince me that chasing after someone was worth it if they were the right person. He said if the woman was his future wife he would chase her, and he expected the same. I am still not convinced that is a reasonable argument. A woman should be pursued. She should never have to chase after something other than her dreams.

A guy who pursues you is a man worth fighting for. A guy who requires you to chase after him is not worth it. Chasing after the guy will not only cause you to question your self worth, but you also start to seem a little needy and like a woman who has no self confidence. Trust me -- I have been that girl. I have been the girl who has chased to the point where I could not chase anymore. I have chased after someone only get my heart broken, in return, and end up in pieces. The moment a man tried to pursue me changed my perspective on things.

So, before you put on your running shoes to chase after this guy for months on end, begin to think about what is really worth it for you. Do you want to fall in love with someone who never puts work into the relationship, or a man who worked for your heart? You are worth more than being the second choice. You are worth everything you deserve and more. There is a guy out there for you -- just don't chase after him. He is waiting to meet you so that he can win your heart over. So let him pursue you. It will be worth the wait.