On Being A Twin

On Being A Twin

It's both pretty weird and pretty cool!

Everyone always asks me what it's like to be a twin. Well, I couldn't really say as it's pretty much different for each twin but here are some things I have found from my own experience as a twin.

1. I understand why you can't tell us apart. Sometimes, I can't either.

We may not be identical twins., but people seem to think we are a lot of the time. I don't really see it but people seem to not be able to tell us apart. We have completely different styles and personalities. I'm more reserved while she is all over the place, but somehow we still seem to confuse people. The extent of how we get confused is really outstanding and our parents didn't help either. There is literally one letter difference between our names. It's so weird. On paper, we are pretty much the same person, almost the same name, same address, same schooling, almost the same phone number since we got our phones at the same time and a lot of the same experiences. It's really confusing.

I remember an instance this summer where the confusion was just insane. We had both been applying for jobs and we applied to the same place. A week later I got a call for an interview. I went in for it and it went well. A couple of weeks later I got a call for another interview. I naturally assumed that they called me in again because they wanted to hire me. Boy, was I wrong. I did the interview and I got the job. When I went in for orientation, I found that I couldn't sign in as an employee with my social security card. They said that I probably made a mistake when I put in my social security in the application, but I knew, I just knew that they had mixed up the applications. It turns out that I was right, they called for an interview the first time for me, and the second interview was supposed to be for my sister. They then sort of assumed we were one person and that person was her, so technically I got the job but under her information so she was in the system, not me. It ended up working out because I kind of convinced them that since my twin was already technically a worker there, why not hire her. It was just a really weird and confusing situation but now I can look back at it and laugh. The fact that they thought we were so alike (though, I don't really think we are) that they made us into one, is just really strange.

The only time I ever think we actually look really alike is in the pictures I have from when we were kids. We are honestly still in an argument about who is who in one of our old pictures. Not even our mom can tell. We have asked pretty much everyone in our family. I guess we will never know.

2. We fight a lot.

The extent of how we get confused is really outstanding and our parents didn't help either. There is literally one letter difference between our names. It's so weird. time and just hearing it is driving me crazy). We're just different, which just makes us constantly argue for the most asinine reasons. We literally spent over three hours arguing on the phone about how Ethel from Riverdale is actually evil. (She is, by the way. Did you see that wicked smirk?). It's just the strangest thing but we always end I guess this is not that common among twins but we fight an absurd amount. We don't really have much in common. She's loud, I'm quiet. She's really into fashion and I couldn't care less. She loves theatre, music, and plays and if I hear another Hamilton song, I might lose my mind ( not because Hamilton isn't great, it is but more because she sings it all up forgetting whatever it was we were fighting about.

3. The "evil twin" stereotype is 100% true.

I know this because I am the evil twin. No explanation, I just am.

4. I'm happy that we are apart.

Don't get me wrong, my sister is truly the best person in my life. She's my best friend and I love when we are together but I'm glad that we are apart now. Growing up, we were always together, everything we did, we did together. When I would go to a friend's house since we had the same friends, she would come with. When I went to a party, she would be there. I would wake up next to her, get ready for school with her, go to school with her, do homework with her, and go places with her. Basically, everywhere I was, she was too. It felt like I wasn't even a person, I was just one of "the twins" and that drove me crazy. Now that we are in different colleges, I finally feel like an individual, I'm no longer a matching set. I don't even really tell people that I'm a twin, just because I don't want to get that look of "aww, you're a twin, you're so lucky".

Being apart actually even helps our relationship, we still talk all the time and when we do see each, we just fall back into the same old rhythm easier.

6. We actually DO have a secret twin language

I think this is less because we are twins and more because we are just complete weirdos.

5. Yes, we are obsessed with Tia and Tamera, Annie and Hallie, Mary-Kate and Ashley and The Sweet Valley Twins.

Or maybe that's just me.

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15 Things You Realize As Your Baby Brother Grows Up

No matter how old he gets, he will always be your baby brother.

Despite the fistfights and days of locking each other out of the house, a little brother is one of the biggest blessings you can receive. Most sisters can agree that they probably bossed their brothers around a lot when they were younger (and probably still do). Most sisters have also most likely forced their brothers to participate in many games that were only enjoyable for one party (baby dolls, house, dress up, etc.)

As a little brother grows up, you start to realize a lot of things as they become your lifelong best friend. Here are 15 of them:

1. He will outgrow you

Even though you were once able to beat him in a wrestling match, and have a fair game of tag, as you get older, he begins to pass you up in size and you realize it probably isn't in your best interest to pick a fight.

2. Teenage boy sass is a real thing

So many times, girls get a bad rep for the teenage phase, but let me tell you, teenage boys have just as much sass if not more than the average hormonal girl. But you also realize that you will get through it, and he is still your sweet brother somewhere deep, deep down.

3. He will go through a phase when he is too cool for you

Your whole life you have been used to your little brother looking up to you and wanting to be just like you and do all the things you do. This probably really annoyed you at some point too and I know I found the words "stop copying me" coming out of my mouth a lot. Don't wish it away, enjoy these times because there hits a point where he will want to do their own thing for a while.

4. He will begin to form his own opinions, and he is actually really smart

He still looks up to you, but there comes a time when he actually starts to contradict and challenge your opinions, and his arguments are surprisingly really good. You learn a lot from your little brother, so start listening to what they have to say sometimes.

5. No girl will ever be good enough for him

When he brings a girl home, you can't help but judge everything about her (no pressure) because to you, no girl will match up to his awesomeness. You know you are annoying, over-controlling, and overly judgmental, but you can't help it, he is your baby brother after all.

6. Regardless of how old or big he gets, if anyone messes with him, you will "beat them up"

I am not a fighter, but somehow anytime someone messes with my little brother, I get the ego of Muhammed Ali and believe that I can beat anyone up. Even now that he has outgrown me by about six inches and 50 pounds and is definitely a lot stronger than me, I still threaten to protect him because for some reason I feel like I can defend him better than he can himself. If anyone shoves him on the soccer field or says something mean to him at school, all of the sudden the big sister is the most intimidating and feisty little 5'4" girl there is out there.

7. He has your back

The once quiet and shy boy you outspoke as a child is not afraid to stand up for you. Even if he knows you're wrong, he is just as protective of you as you are of him and he will always be there for you whether you need a shoulder to cry on, you've had a fight with your friends and need someone to talk to, or a guy blows you off and you just need dairy queen and a movie night.

8. People will think he is your boyfriend and vice versa

As little kids, you were obviously the big sister, but now that he has outgrown you, hit puberty and matured, people mistake him as your boyfriend all the time. When you go to dinner and get the "you are such a cute couple" comment, you can't help but laugh.

9. All of his academic success is obviously all thanks to you

All the days you forced him to play "school" with you and tried to teach him everything you knew paid off because he actually knows what he is doing now. You're welcome.

10. Every year he turns another year older, you freak out because you remember how old you felt when you were his age, and it is not possible for him to be that old

No, no, no. He is little. He cannot drive just because he is 16. That is scary. [Only you were mature enough and ready to drive at 16.] There is no way that he is already 18 and can vote. You will never get used to the fact that he is growing up at the same pace as you are.

11. He is the one person who defies your theory that you are never wrong

He always has your best interests in mind, so if he disapproves of a guy, or questions a choice you are making, he is most likely right, just listen to him. Seriously, it will save you time in the future.

12. You will always worry about him

Yes, you are annoying and you know he can handle himself, but the thought of him ever getting hurt kills you. Every time he goes out or takes a risk, you worry about him. However, you also know and trust that he is smart and makes good choices, and if he ever doesn't, you will always be here to save the day, duh!

13. You are his biggest fan

And you are absolutely obnoxious at sporting games and other events. You are the first person to yell at the referee when he gets fouled and the loudest person screaming when he scores a goal. You also find yourself bragging about him to your friends because you are just so proud, and you taught him everything he knows (duh again).

14. He is your best friend

You can tell him anything and he can tell you anything. You guys have a pact and he won't tell your secrets. He's your person, and you have come to find out that he actually gives great advice when you give him the chance to talk.

15. No matter how old he gets, he will always be your baby brother

No matter how old my brother gets, we still say "I love you" every night and he will always be my little baby brother who I watch over and protect, always. I know I have a lifelong best friend who I can lean on during hard times, and celebrate with when the times are good. Bless up.

Special shoutout to my baby brother, Luke, for teaching me so much about myself and always being there for me.

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To Alex—The Little Brother I Can't Imagine Life Without

I am so thankful and blessed to have such a caring and forgiving brother like you.


When my brother was born, I cried to the nurses and told them to return him. I was an only child for about seven years so I was always used to being the center of attention. I was an upset child who not only had to share attention with my parents but family friends and extended family. Alex, who is my brother, was a quiet chubby baby who never cried or complained at all.

On the other hand, I was a noisy monster who couldn't go out without making a dramatic scene. As Alex and I got older, we began to connect more since he began to talk and walk around. We shared common interests in playing in the dirt, sports, music and humor. Like all siblings, we had our ups and downs, but one thing I can say about my brother is that he was always forgiving to me. As a little child to the preteen he is now, he was always forgiving of the actions I would do to him. I could ruin his favorite drawing or kick his favorite ball far away, but he would never hate or give me the cold shoulder. Yeah, he would be upset and say something rude, but he always found some way of letting it go. I used to not be very forgiving of my brother when he would do the same, but I eventually realized that resentment and anger was not the way to go. It only creates strains on relationships that could be strengthened or worked on.

Upon leaving college we spent less time since he was deeply involved in sports and I was preparing for the next chapter in my life. We didn't talk a whole lot while I was away since he was busy with middle school and sports, but the times we talked made me realize he was growing up without me. Having your family live a whole continent away doesn't help either because time zones are tricky. However, this didn't mean I didn't love my brother any less or that my relationship with him was gone. This was us growing up.

If there is one thing my brother has taught me besides his dedication to sports and smarts in history, is to be forgiving. In this world, it's easy to be hateful and bitter to those who do you wrong or you simply don't like. If it weren't for my brother showing me unconditional love when I was being a prick, I don't think I would be forgiving. Looking back, I am really thankful and blessed to have such a caring and forgiving brother.

Alex, if you're reading this, I love and miss you. I'm glad you are my one and only brother.

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