My Mom And Me: Best Friends For Life

My Mom And Me: Best Friends For Life

All of my close friends understand why.

Growing up I had so many friends come in and out of my life. Many of whom, never looked back at the friendship we shared.

Every time a friendship came to an end, my mom always told me that this is what happens in life, people grow up and they change. This was just something I had to accept.

As I went off to college and moved 1,500 miles away, I left loads of friends behind. Only about four of them still speak to me. And I get it, we all moved on to the rest of our lives.

Three years later and my main group of friends has become very small. I have a few friends at college, but I only have one friend that I talk to every single day and only one friend that does everything with me.

That friend is my mom.

My mom has been my best friend since before I was born, however, I never realized nor appreciated it until college.

Growing up I always read or heard people saying, that once you move away to college your mom will become your best friend. And it is so true.

Everything in our lives changed at once, college, divorce, moving, death, even jobs. But together, our family made it through. I feel that because of all these changes, our friendship was able to grow.

I'll always have the memories we made together, like driving cross country with her at Christmas, doing it a year later to move, going on a cruise, living in a single bedroom apartment with her and my sister.

Our lives may have changed but they have only gotten better. They are filled with more love and more laughter, more road rage and a lot of bad words.

People ask me what I did over the weekend or over break, and my answer is always, "I worked and then I hung out with my mom".

All of my close friends understand why. They have always found my mom to be fun, loud, and the best person to drive a get-away car. She's not just my mom but their second mom as well. As a kid, I did not see what they saw and I was foolish.

My mom is more than just my friend, but my best friend for life.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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