I got married about a month ago. You could say that I was a bit of a bridezilla and definitely had some control issues. I truly don't believe wedding planning is ever easy or as planned. I think the planning process is a way to air out differences among EVERYONE involved. That being said, as much as I was not a fan of the process, I was able to keep it together well enough with my wonderful friends that are in the same boat as me.
It works like this:
In our group chat, we are able to express whatever is happening, good or bad. We have had goofy names for each other generally retaliating to our attitudes for wedding planning.
The Enthusiast has been through weddings with her sisters and some how knows every essential that a good wedding requires. She is having the most "proper" of out three weddings. She had lead Miss Worst and I in finding out wedding dresses and so far beyond. She's like the next best thing to a wedding planner.
The Worst is as described, not about this whole wedding thing. She has her mad and just wants to be married already. This lovely friend of mine keeps it real and never let us get wrapped up in the "magic" of the wedding since it always crashes and burns then everyone is upset. The Worst's sense of humor is what can get Miss Enthusiast and I through anything!Finally, there was me, The First to Go. I have a roll somewhere in the middle of my other two friends. I am crafty and loved that end of wedding planning, but I begged to wear white sweats, so there was a ridiculous amount of nonsense "traditions" I had to fight. I am the one that is a veteran to the wedding experience and can give the "Oh I should have, so you should" advice.Now, I'm the married one that is still supporting my friends in preparations for their weddings. I've done it for myself and I'm super thrilled to deal with it all for the awesome ladies that got me through it!To EVERY bride-to-be I suggest finding a friend or two to decompress with. The amount of times one of us tells the others that something isn't going as planned and then gets showered in weird GIFs to brighten the day is innumerable. We've sat in one of our dorms and gone though things. We've laughed, cried, and everything in between. Find a group of engaged friends if you are able to. It bonded us and is a really great way to mutually keep the wedding planning motivation going. The balance of your friends will likely balance out in a way that you all need it too!
