You're probably not going to ever read this voluntarily, but know this letter is here for you. The following tidbits are just a few hopes and dreams, or even little expectations, that I have for our marriage. Even if these points sound a little naive, it's fine because we will grow together and alter what we believe in as a married couple. Consequently, I have these thoughts to go through and reflect on until that moment arrives.

Dear future husband,

I hope you know what you are getting yourself into, not because I'm a piece of work but my family will give you hell. Being the first born, the first grandchild, and the oldest girl in the family, you will not slip into the family's good side easily. Yes, my family is warm and welcoming, but you will be the new piece of bait and you will need to have a wicked sense of humor -- trust me, you'll learn quickly. With that said, I know you'll be just as family-oriented as I am, and we will both have a tight bond with each other's parents and extended family. As you will find out, my number one priority is family and I hope that it to be yours too!

I am an open book and willing to share anything with you. With so much chaos in this world, along with temptations, I want you to be able to express silly thoughts and major concerns with me without judgment; I hope I can do the same. Being honest with one another will keep us strong and able to value each other as both individuals and life partners. As I've seen in many other relationships, having the same values in life can create a stronghold in the relationship. I hope that we can uphold the following values: devotion, appreciation, commitment, forgiveness, gratitude, friendship, and patience (let's be honest, the list can go on and on). I believe these values will guide us through life and on our lessons to the children we potentially raise.

Talking about children, the only thing I have to say is that we will keep family names. I hope to raise them together, meaning we will both agree on the same parenting style. Expect me to ask for help, and helping. I expect to help you when you need help. If we decide to have children, it's a two-person job with guidance from our parents, lessons we learned in our childhoods, etc. -- I hope you feel the same way!

I know marriage will not be easy. There will be disagreements but every healthy relationship has its bumps in the road, and I want us both to be able to drive the relationship if the other isn't willing to. I am an avid listener; I will continuously be there for you to just let go and carry on about anything that you need to let off your chest. But as a husband, I would like to know that you can do the same, and be the man that can hold their wife when needed to give advice. Communication is key and just as long as we can do this simple thing, there’s no doubt we can take on the world.

I hope you're out there living your best life until I come into it, you know to make it even better! And whatever you could be going through, just know it will get better. I hope you are thinking about our future together too and not waiting for me to make up our minds -- two minds are better than one. I can't wait for life together and even if it takes 20 more years, I honestly think it will be for the better. Until then, my heart, my love, my future husband.

With love,
Your (crazy obsessed with you) future wife

P.S. Life is an adventure . . . be my adventure!