For those of you in relationships you know how close you are with your boyfriend, you probably tell him everything, talk to him all night and day. Or maybe you haven't been together that long and aren't quite at that place yet. Either way the bond between boyfriend and girlfriend should be a strong one, if it isn't you might want to reconsider the relationship. But, would you go far enough to say that your boyfriend is your best friend?
If you actually fell for your best friend maybe you would say this because your boyfriend really was your best friend. Once you started dating your best friend was or is he still considered your best friend? Your friends probably call him only your boyfriend now, that could make you the only one who sees him as being both. Along the way was the position of your best friend taken by someone else? Did a friend move up or did someone new come along? If so does this mean you have two best friends, or a best friend and a boyfriend who isn’t your best friend? Are you okay with that? Is that what you want? Can and do you want one person holding two important titles?
We all have those friends who say their boyfriend is their best friend, some of you actually might be that person, but shouldn't those be two separate people? When you get upset with your boyfriend who do you go complain to about him, your best friend.
Sure, you can go talk to another one of your friends, but no one knows you as well as your best friend does, they are, in fact, your best friend for a reason. In ways, yes it would be nice to have a boyfriend who is your best friend. This can mean a deeper bond for some couples. If you're dating your best friend then it's like having two great relationships wrapped in one.
But it is not for everyone.
Some people feel strongly about the separation between having a boyfriend and having a best friend, others dream of dating and then marrying their best friend. Maybe you are the person who has a girl best friend and a guy best friend so you can have someone to tell you what to wear and talk girl problems with and then have someone who you can just be friends with because you like hanging out.
Having a boyfriend and having a best friend are two different relationships, so shouldn’t they be two separate people? You don’t want to put all of your eggs in one basket and then when the relationship doesn’t work out you lose two people instead of one.
Maybe in some ways having a boyfriend who doubles as your best friend would be nice. Being able to share that bond with someone would be great, but do you want to risk losing two people instead of one? Wouldn’t you rather keep them separate so you have someone to complain about your boyfriend to?
Don’t you want a best friend who can tell you that shirt your wearing doesn’t go with your pants? Don’t you want to have two important people in your life instead of just one? If something were to happen to one you would still have the other to fall back on and isn’t that good to know? Shouldn’t your boyfriend just be your boyfriend and your best friend only be your best friend?
