One day you will be sitting on a bench somewhere in a park and suddenly you will realize that everything has changed. One day will come where you realize that everything you used to know and how life used to be is now completely different. It will hit you like a truck. It will feel like that mostly, because it hurts like hell. After all, it hurts when the truth slams you so hard against reality that it feels like concrete.
A lot has changed in your life and it isn't because you chose for it to. A lot of what has changed in your life is different because things just happened, simple as that. That's the way life works. It moves in a constant stream of energy being stored and used and recycled. That energy creates the world you see around you. You walk around looking at the ground so when you tilt your head up and you are not where you thought you were going, an overwhelming feeling of "I'm lost" consumes you. In that moment, change is real to you.
Change happens all the time around you, you are just too busy with your nose too close to the plasma screen and your ass too settled into the bean bag. Life and the people in it are constantly rearranging themselves and when you stop to look that is when you can see it—really see it. Although it is rapidly occurring, stepping outside yourself for just one moment can put your entire world in a new perspective. Sometimes, your shoes change size or shape right underneath you and walking through life becomes a different experience, and then fear sets in. It is not fun to be lost, and it is not enjoyable to feel the weight of unexpected displacement.
If you are looking for a "fear repellent," there are none of those in the life isle, sorry. We ran out. But don't pull your hair out just yet! There's another nifty trick to survive this petrifying epiphany and it's called moving on. It's not a hard trick to pull but it is not an easy one either. In order to move on first you have to accept it, you have to accept all of it. It does not matter how it happened, it does not matter why it happened, what matters is that it is. Stop trying to figure out how in a matter of minutes your world was upside down, you are wasting your time and it won't put things back to the way they were. This is the life you have been handed and it makes no sense to sit and waste it trying to fix something that "ain't broke."
Sure, it's all different now which means you are going to have to accommodate certain aspects of who you are and how you are. None of this, however, is reason enough to stop you. It's hard and confusing when you have to leave a relationship behind, or a lifestyle, or a place of work or a place of living but it's not impossible. Life hurts and it kicks you in the gut when you are down and it smacks you from behind while you are blinking but if you give yourself a chance, then you can make it. To move on you just have to keep walking.
