Moving on from a Past Love

When to Let Go of Someone you Loved. Let Us Look at the Glass Half Full, Not Half Empty.

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I have had a few boyfriends, but my last one was my first love. Our love was short lived though great while it lasted, we broke up after only a month of dating because he had to go back to his home country.

As a born and raised American, it hit me hard that we are not all lucky enough to live in this country filled with opportunities for most. Some people's home countries do not offer them opportunities and they are pressured to leave their loved ones and re-settle in a new country to make a better life for themselves. This did not only happen 100s of years ago... it is happening now. I would have never noticed if I didn't work in Queens, leaving the white suburban bubble of Westchester.

My ex love and I tried long distance and we decided just to be friends. It's hard to have someone you love just to disappear from your life, especially when all the people you have loved in your lifetime are always there for you. It's hard to get over someone you love, but I learned from this that it's important to let go and trying to be friends is just a distraction and a string that keeps you unnecessarily bonded together.

It took me a while to let go of my ex-boyfriend because I still felt love and he did too. I questioned when to let go of someone you love.

Here's some tips that I learned while going through my breakup:

~ Look at the glass as half full, not as half empty. Everything happens for a reason. Learn from your past and don't let it trip you up.

~Be selfish.You're broken up for a reason. As much as you care about him, you need to care about yourself more. Move on.

~If you're afraid of not finding someone again who will love you as much as you were loved, it's not true. You will find someone else and it will be for the best.

~He will not forget you, you'll always be a part of him. Be confident and secure in yourself and the relationship you had, that there will always be a sort of love that will not be forgotten.

Here's to letting go for the right reasons, and loving again.

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If you've ever experienced cyber-bullying, or if you ever feel caught up in our over-critical society, Tay Swift's new song "You Need To Come Down" is the song for you. While we live in a world with free speech, and especially as a journalist I am all for that, sometimes its best to think before you speak - or tweet. We should all try to be understanding and kind no matter what the circumstance, even if it means not clicking send on some Twitter rants. These lyrics are a friendly reminder to stay calm and focus on what's important.

1. "Say it in the street, that's a knock-out. But you say it in a tweet, that's a cop out."

If this isn't the call-out message of the year on cyber-bullying (in song, at least), I don't know what is.

2. "But I've learned a lesson that stressin' and obsessin' about somebody else is no fun."

We all need to remember at times that getting mixed up in drama isn't fruitful for our lives or growth.

3. "Like can you not step on my gown? You need to calm down."

Don't let the haters control you or stop you from living, just tell those voices to calm down.

4. "Why are you mad when you could be glad?"

Focusing on hate or being critical can be exhausting, and it's better to focus on the good things.

5. "Sunshine on the street at the parade, but you would rather be in the dark ages."

Show people that going into the light is so much easier than they realize when they are stuck in a drama-cloud.

6. "You just need to take several seats and then try to restore the peace."

Instead of trying to have the last word in every fight, try to be the peace-maker instead.

7. "Control your urges to scream about all the people that you hate."

Hate never made the world go 'round. Hate was never what Jesus spoke about. And some things just aren't worth using energy to yell at.

8. "But we all know now we all got crowns."

Don't be afraid to show that you are a princess and no one can take your crown.

This song is not just a collection of Insta-quotes, but also a call-out for all of us to live better lives, to remain a positive and uplifting human in this cancel culture world. By no means should we remain silent on important issues or let people get away with bad things, but we can choose to not get mixed up in petty drama that won't matter in a week. Let's agree to be kind to one another.

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