As college students, we are required by society to become addicted to shows on Netflix such as "Gossip Girl," "Orange is the New Black" and of course, "Grey's Anatomy." We also know who slept over at whose place two nights ago. When the two of these combine, what do we call this? “Netflix and chill” with my friends. So what exactly is “Netflix and Chill?”
According to the only dictionary worth looking up definitions in during college, Urban Dictionary, a PG rated definition for “Netflix and chill” is “When your boyfriend/girlfriend asks you to come over to their place and have sex. This is somewhat similar to a 'booty call' but misleading.” Keep in mind that was only the appropriate definition.
Let me take you through the basic scenario. You met a guy once or even you just happened to swipe right on Tinder, and he asks you to come over. You being a typical girl, ask, “Oh what do you wanna do?” Nine times out of 10, he will say “Oh, we can chill and watch some Netflix.” Don't go! Listen to your roommate, listen to your pledge sisters, ignore your urges. Chances are the guy will respect you more if you suggest something else—if he’s worth keeping around that is. If you’re purposely picking D-bags, then I can’t help you.
Most guys in college don’t have the kind of money to wine and dine us as often as we would like. If they do, it’s their parent’s funds. But hey, maybe they really do just want to spoon you, chill, share a tub of Ben and Jerry’s and get addicted to a new show with you. I hate to burst your bubble, but the chances of that happening without you getting poked by a not-so-foreign object are slim to none.
“Netflix and chill” is a polite way of a guy in college saying, “Oh, I mean, I’m not trying to spend a bunch of money on you this early into whatever this is. Plus I’m curious if my pledge brother was right about you being a prude, so I really just want to try to seduce you into sleeping with me before I take whatever this is any further.” It is the ugly truth. Read it and weep.
So why do girls “Netflix and chill” while knowing what it is? I believe that girls are sexual beings just as much as guys are, so all the more power to the girl who gives zero you-know-whats to what society tells her she needs to be, or the double standard that guys get for doing what they want “that one night.” It seems like those girls are few and far in between. Most girls just see the good in everyone and don’t want to believe that a guy just wants to “Netflix and chill” regularly but nothing else. So maybe in the future, you will choose to make the guy take you to Starbucks or even to the dining hall (for all you freshmen readers). Anything is better than a “Netflix and chill” date that early on. Maybe you can do that after dinner. No judgement over here. To each their own.
