Mother's Day is just peeping around the corner, and for those who aren't so close to our mothers, here are 10 things that we all know to be true. Unfortunately it's really just a sad day for both daughters and mothers.
1. You tend to over dramatize success stories to your mom in hopes that she’ll want to hear more of what you want to say, and maybe display how proud she is of you.
Essentially, “Does my scholarship, winning the Olympics, finding the cure for cancer, etc come with a hug?..”
2. You are envious of all your friends and relatives that have a good relationship with their mother.
Also that weird feeling when you're envious of your mom’s relationship with her own mother because you’ll start to wonder where you've went wrong...
3. You secretly desire her to ask you if you’d like to spend some mother daughter bonding time this Tuesday.
You’ve even idealized it with her saying those exact words. “Mother. Daughter. Bonding. Time.”
4. You get so emotional over movies and shows where the daughter tries and eventually attains the affection of her mother.
The next thing you know, your face (often unattractively...) contorts, and all these liquids comes out of your nose and eyes.
5. You just can’t relate to movies where the mom is openly affectionate (but for some reason it still piques jealousy).
6. That nervous kind of excitement you get when you plan something wonderfully “daughter like” (such as breakfast in bed, and cute surprises including but not limited to, "mums for moms") so that she might show you a positive reaction.
And when you get more of a positive reaction than you had imagined? The BEST.
7. You’ve tried being cold to her just so that she might ask you what’s wrong.
(But this never really works because she’ll either ignore you, or claim that it’s an attitude problem.)
I don’t recommend this passive aggressive approach. It definitely doesn’t get processed the way you want it to...
8. And when things blow out of proportions, you’ve tried to make her feel bad for not being the mom that you had “always wanted”.
This also does not end well, especially because you’re probably going to compare her to your friend’s mom which will likely land you in Hell.
9. You've tried to get your siblings out of the picture for a day to possibly experience the full spectrum of potential mothering from your mother.
Admit it, you’ve once thought that it might just make all the difference…
10. And lastly, you’ve teared while praying to God that one day she’ll realize how much she’ll want to explicitly show her love for you, because all this time, you've deserved and needed it.
If you don’t have an affectionate mom involved in your life, you’ll really understand the emotions behind this one.
So, these are just a few things that I think are sad but true to those who had longed for motherly affection. However, I cannot further emphasize that you must never give up hope. Try not to be passive aggressive with your mother, and come to understand that you might just have a different kind of love language than that she provides. Always know that there will be someone who loves you to the extent you had envisioned, but in a different form. Remind yourself that love comes from different people, therefore you should never expect it to all appear the same. Never be picky, or take it for granted because you'll eventually be disappointed.
But I love you all.
