I am a mom of one with one on the way, so, soon to be a mom of two. In my four years of mothering, I have encountered so many women who disagree with nuances of parenting to the point of feeling the need to share it with anyone and everyone. What is this all about? i don't get it.

Here are examples: When I was breastfeeding, I found out my son had a milk protein allergy. "Why don't you just give him formula instead of cutting dairy out of your diet?" Well, it was not about them and what they could do. It was about me and my family and what I chose to do as his mother.

When my son turned to these questions and comments started to flow in: "When are you going to have another one?", "Don't wait too long before having another one and, "What are you waiting on?" Here is what the average person did not know: I have PCOS, and apparently am not the most fertile person on the planet.

My child is a picky eater. Oh boy, these comments really were helpful: "Make him sit there until he eats what you put in front of him", "Spank him," and "Offer him that same thing over and over until he eats it, and don not give him anything else."

I say all of that to say this, what if we celebrated other mothers and encouraged them instead of spewing out our opinions? What if we lent a listening ear and gave compassion when another woman was struggling? I think our judgmental, let me just post on social media what I think, if you are not like me then you must be wrong, attitudes would change. I think we would love each other better and be able to focus on what unites us instead of what divides us. Motherhood is a wonderful calling, albeit challenging, it is so worthy. I am blessed to have a community that is supportive and not about dividing lines where we do things differently. Every family has to find a rhythm that works for them, and in my experience, our rhythm is ever changing as our child grows and as we are about to welcome another child into our family.

So let me encourage you to be stop wondering why a mom is feeding her child an organic snack or treating them to an Oreo. How about smiling at the mom wearing her baby. Do not get all crazy about the woman breastfeeding her baby in public. Consider that a woman with no children or one child may not be able to bear children or may not want one or another one at all, and leave it be. We really can make the world a better place to be by choosing one kind word and action at a time.