You might not be ready to be a real mom, but a friend group mom is just as good.

You might not be ready to be a real mom, but a friend group mom is just as good.


To me, being a mom means putting others before yourself, making sure they have everything they need, and trying your hardest to give them everything they want. It means making sure that others are safe and happy, and to expect the unexpected by having a solution when all hell breaks loose. As a little girl, I always thought about what it would be like to grow up, find the guy of my dreams, have a few children, and raise the most perfect little family. There is so much for a mother to teach her children, but more importantly, it is a mother's job to protect her children. As a full time college student, working part time, and focused on her career, I could not be more sure that I am so not ready to reach that point in my life yet. However, I know I will be ready when the time comes because I have had more than enough practice taking care of my friends.

Everyone knows moms fix everything, often times by carrying everything, and being the "mom" of your friend group is no different. Since taking on the role of being a friend mom, my bag has gained a couple items including:

- band-aids to make boo boos better

- extra hair elastics so no one's hair falls in their face, the toilet or worse

- water bottles for a quick sober-up

- flip flops to replace heels after a long night

- garbage bags for those who just can't make it to the toilet

While the two are a little different, being a mom and playing a mom to your friends share quite a few similarities. Both are responsibilities that include preparing, packing and sometimes even feeding snacks to people who are incapable of feeding themselves. The job includes being the sober one at the party, being the designated driver, and making sure no one does anything too stupid. It also occasionally means waking up in the middle of the night to make fast food runs. Being a friend mom means making sure everyone makes it home safe, is changed into something comfortable to sleep in, is cleaned up, fed, and has a place to sleep. Often times, being a mom means doing things you don't want to do- things like cleaning up after God knows what, giving up things that you would like to have for those who need them more than you, and just doing things that you might not really want to do, but that you know that you need to do.

As the "mom" of my friend group, it is important for me to acknowledge why I'm the friend mom. I wouldn't be able to hold this role if it weren't for my mother. Over the years, she has taught me everything that I have needed to know in order to survive, in order to take care of others, and most importantly, she has taught me what it means to love and be loved. Being a mom is something that you do for those you love; for those who you would do anything for. After a rough night, my friends thank me, but the thanks all comes back to my mom.

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25 Things About Me

On My 25th Birthday

Since my birthday is on Sunday, I decided to write an article all about me!

1. I love to cook for my husband. Actually, I like to cook period. I even have my on cooking blog titled "If You Want To Eat You Have To Cook". My favorite thing to make is anything with noodles because I love Asian food.

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2. I have a degree in Communications with a concentration in Public Relations.

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3. My favorite food to eat while I am out and about is sushi.


4. Cats are my favorite animal.


5. My favorite thing to drink is a margarita.


6. My favorite season is summer.

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7. I love making treats for my husband, such as cakes and love notes.

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8. My favorite artist is Lady Gaga.


9. My favorite movie genre is a crime drama, such as Lifetime Movies.

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10. I love wrapping presents for other people.


11. My favorite outfit is a long summer dress.


12. My favorite color is pink.


13. My most prized possession are my engagement and wedding rings.


14. I love taking black and white pictures.


15. My favorite dessert is coconut or red velvet cake.

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16. I love my parents and husband.


17. One of my guilty pleasures is binge watching the Bachelor and Bachelorette.


18. My favorite show on TV right now is Nashville.


19. I love to watch Disney movies.

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20. I love cooking with my husband.

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21. My favorite meal is steaks and gnocchi.


22. I love bingewatching TV shows on Netflix.

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23. I love taking road trips on the weekend with my husband.


24. I love getting things done early, and hate procrastination.


25. I love myself and I love being me.

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6 Signs You're Experiencing The Infamous Sophomore Slump

Stress goes up, excitement goes down.

As the end of my sophomore year in college is now in sight, I've begun to take a look back on this year and how utterly strange it has been. I've recently found a term that perfectly describes everything I've felt from this year in just two words: Sophomore Slump. This term has been coined to describe a,

"Period of developmental confusion where students may face difficulties in academic, social, and personal development. In addition, after the novelties of college social life have worn off, nothing seems quite as special."

I've definitely experienced this feeling this year, and although I find myself still enjoying college, the stresses have seemed to increase while the excitement has simultaneously worn off. If you're suffering through the Sophomore Slump as well, you might be able to relate to these tell-tale signs.

1. You went from going out every weekend to adopting a sleep schedule similar to your grandparents.

Freshman year, every weekend was full of constant opportunities for parties. You waited your whole life for the true college experience, and last year you went a little too hard. Now, you're making up for it by spending your weekends reading, sleeping and most importantly, binging the latest Netflix original special.

2. Frat parties are yesterday’s news.

I still remember the excitement leading up to frat parties during my freshman year, especially for tailgates. Now, if I ever even do go out, I prefer a house party with people I actually enjoy being around.

3. You begin questioning whether your major is right for you…and is it too late now?

Is my major the right one for me? I'm already too far in! I can't back out now! Sophomore year is basically a giant ball of stress and quarter-life crises.

4. You enjoy feeling more like an adult, but you miss the innocence of being a freshman.

As a freshman, you were still naive to adult life, and while that had its own problems, sometimes you miss being the new kid on campus with a whole world of opportunities ahead of you.

5. Somehow, if it’s even possible, your procrastination has gotten even worse.

If you thought last year was bad...

6. And you still find yourself in a constant state of denial.

It's fine, I'm fine, everything's fine.

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