You might not be ready to be a real mom, but a friend group mom is just as good.

You might not be ready to be a real mom, but a friend group mom is just as good.

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To me, being a mom means putting others before yourself, making sure they have everything they need, and trying your hardest to give them everything they want. It means making sure that others are safe and happy, and to expect the unexpected by having a solution when all hell breaks loose. As a little girl, I always thought about what it would be like to grow up, find the guy of my dreams, have a few children, and raise the most perfect little family. There is so much for a mother to teach her children, but more importantly, it is a mother's job to protect her children. As a full time college student, working part time, and focused on her career, I could not be more sure that I am so not ready to reach that point in my life yet. However, I know I will be ready when the time comes because I have had more than enough practice taking care of my friends.


Everyone knows moms fix everything, often times by carrying everything, and being the "mom" of your friend group is no different. Since taking on the role of being a friend mom, my bag has gained a couple items including:

- band-aids to make boo boos better

- extra hair elastics so no one's hair falls in their face, the toilet or worse

- water bottles for a quick sober-up

- flip flops to replace heels after a long night

- garbage bags for those who just can't make it to the toilet


While the two are a little different, being a mom and playing a mom to your friends share quite a few similarities. Both are responsibilities that include preparing, packing and sometimes even feeding snacks to people who are incapable of feeding themselves. The job includes being the sober one at the party, being the designated driver, and making sure no one does anything too stupid. It also occasionally means waking up in the middle of the night to make fast food runs. Being a friend mom means making sure everyone makes it home safe, is changed into something comfortable to sleep in, is cleaned up, fed, and has a place to sleep. Often times, being a mom means doing things you don't want to do- things like cleaning up after God knows what, giving up things that you would like to have for those who need them more than you, and just doing things that you might not really want to do, but that you know that you need to do.


As the "mom" of my friend group, it is important for me to acknowledge why I'm the friend mom. I wouldn't be able to hold this role if it weren't for my mother. Over the years, she has taught me everything that I have needed to know in order to survive, in order to take care of others, and most importantly, she has taught me what it means to love and be loved. Being a mom is something that you do for those you love; for those who you would do anything for. After a rough night, my friends thank me, but the thanks all comes back to my mom.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.
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Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.


7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.

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Seniors,

I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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