To The Moms We Never See Enough Of, Now That We're In College

To The Moms We Never See Enough Of, Now That We're In College

If I were to dream of being rich, it’d be so we could visit more often.

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Mom, I love you. I don't say it enough to you. I know it was hard letting me go, especially since I moved 2,000 miles away. But I want you to know, I appreciate all the love and support you've given me over the years. Both when I lived under the same roof as yours, and now that I'm on the other side of the country. You've always been my rock, the person I can count on when I need it the most.

I'm writing this letter because I don't see you very often and I wish I could. Moving away, being a broke college girl, from a family with not a lot is hard. It means I can't fly home whenever I want and you can't fly here whenever you want. It means we're left with a few days before we have to return to work instead of a month-long vacation of catching up and enjoying each others company. It means every time I get to see you, I learn to appreciate the time spent together even more. If I were to dream of being rich, it'd be so we could visit more often.

I'm sorry I didn't call a lot the first semester. It's one of my biggest regrets. Coming home for the first time in six months that first year was eye-opening. I didn't realize how much I had missed you or how hard it would be every time we had to say goodbye. I appreciate you staying strong with me over the last year and I know we'll survive the next three.

To the Mom I don't see often enough, I love you with all my heart! And I hope you know I count down the days until we can see each other again. Saying goodbye is really hard, and saying hello never comes soon enough. I promise I'll call more often, try to fly home more than twice a year, but most of all I promise to never let you forget how much I love and appreciate all you do for me.

The reason I'm here, on my own, surviving is because of you. You taught me to go after my dreams even when the journey is difficult. You taught me to provide for myself, budget, and the gift that is coupons and sales. You're the reason I'm the strong young woman I am. If it weren't for you I wouldn't have been able to achieve the accomplishments I have and to continue to pursue new ones. Your kindness inspires me and I aim to follow in your footsteps.

I don't like to say goodbye, only see you later. I love you, mom! And I can't wait to come home this winter. This may be my full-time residence for the time being but it'll never fully be home as long as you're not here.

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Losing A Grandparent Changed My Life

Live for them, and give them a legacy to be proud of.
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Death isn’t what the average 20-something thinks about every day. You don’t think it will happen to you, or the people around you. You know that it exists because you see heart-wrenching reports on the news daily of another life lost to ignorance or hate.

Yes, losing a grandparent definitely changes your life. For some of us, it's a drastic change. To others: they knew it was coming. Still, some weren't even close to their grandparents because they lived too far away from each other to build a relationship in person.

I can't even fathom that considering both of my grandparents lived a city away from me or across town. They are your second set of parents and the love you've had for your entire life. They are the lessons learned and the ones holding your hand through it all.

When my grandfather died (affectionately known to me as Papa), my life changed. I watched him take his last breath in the hospital alone. I called my mother to tell her that her father died. In that moment: my emotionally sheltered life was torn apart. In that moment: I had to grow up. The person I had leaned on my entire life was gone.

I literally reconsidered everything I had done in my life in a matter of hours. I thought about college, finally graduating and walking across that stage: cords swinging and my tassel hanging there. That was his biggest dream for me, we were only a year away from it when he left this earth.

When a grandparent passes they take a part of you: big or small. When you were younger you planned out life with them. You shared your dreams with them, your insecurities, your childish ways and most of all you shared your love.

They, in turn, taught you lessons about life, helped you realize those dreams, and never let you go without being told you were loved every single time they saw you. They are the suppliers of happiness, security, and laughs. Friends come and go, but your family stays with you forever.

The bottom line is: most everyone knows what it's like to lose a grandparent. We all cope differently, and leaning on others is the best way to keep yourself up. Facing the reality of death is the only way we can accept it and move on. Moving on doesn't mean forgetting, it means understanding. We were lucky enough to have these amazing people to guide us through our younger years, teaching us these vital lessons.

I can't tell you how many times a day I wish I had my papa back. Learning to cope without them is the hardest part, even years later. Grandparents prepare you for life's greatest gains. Little did they know they would be their grandchildren's biggest loss. Live for them, and give them a legacy to be proud of.

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What It Is Really Like Having Sisters Close To Your Age

While having siblings close to your age is pretty amazing, there can be a lot of issues that can come with it.

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I come from a family of 5 people and 1 dog. I have 2 sisters, Grace and Caroline. We are all pretty close in age, Caroline being the youngest and 3 years younger than me.

My sisters and I share a bond like no one else, no one can replicate it. When you have siblings close to your age you have built-in best friends, and since they are around your age you have the same interest, or at least, enough so that you can do things that other siblings cannot. Examples of this would be seeing R-Rated movies and going to the mall without too much complaining, along with being able to shop in the same stores or even share clothes. Grace and I sometimes even split the cost of a shirt we both like.

We even overlap friend groups! Which is not much of a problem for us, Grace and I are both in music programs which overlap enough for us to have the same friends, which is great for when one of us has a sleepover, the other can join in on the fun. Caroline, however, even though she is seen as the sporty one of the 3 of us, she still has a lot of friends who have similar interests as Grace or I, giving us a lot of the same friends. It's nice not to be considered the "cool older sister", I am just like the rest of them.

While we do fight a lot, we make up really quickly, because most issues we have are stupid sibling fights: who gets the T.V., what to have for dinner, what movie to see. But it is always fun because there are 3 of us, which means majority rules, something we tend to go by most of the time depending on the situation.

Having 3 teenagers in the house can be a handful for our parents though, when you have three teenage girls going through puberty at relatively the same time, it can be grueling, especially when you are all on your period at the same time.. (yes, that has happened before) (and yes, it sucks). While I am on the topic, let's say a prayer and a thank you to my dad for dealing with 5 girls (including the dog, obviously) because he does a pretty damn good job at dealing with all of us.

When we were younger, we always had a play date even when one was canceled. We all made up songs and dances and would perform them for our parents. We even had a band called The Halsey Sisters (AKA the female version of The Jonas Brothers) where we had a hit song called "We Got The Heart and Soul". It was a hell of a time. Let's just say the music video for that song is, interesting to say the least.

At the end of the day, I wouldn't switch my sisters for anything in the world, they are my rocks, and I wouldn't want it any other way, Grace, Caroline, keep doing what you're doing, because you're pretty damn awesome.

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