Today's Interpersonal Communication

Today's Interpersonal Communication

Has the usage of cell phones and social media changed the way we talk to each other?


We've all heard it before-- "Kids nowadays just don't talk to each other anymore." Whether it be from our own parents or from the exasperation of a random adult we see in public, it is a fact that younger generations have built a reputation for becoming reliant upon text messages and social media to talk to one another. Has much really changed though? Is communication via technology really preferred amongst young people?

I conducted a small poll for my followers on Instagram asking 3 questions. First, I asked if they preferred to talk to people in person or through text/social media. Then, I asked if it mattered whether that person was just a friend or someone that could potentially be more than a friend. Lastly, I asked if they would rather make a move on someone in person or via text/social media. The results (out of about 50 young people ages 17-21 for each question) were as listed below:

1) 89% voted their preferred method of communication was in person, while 11% voted it was via text/social media.

2) 56% voted that it did matter whether the person they were talking to was just a friend or someone they potentially wanted for more than a friend, while 44% voted that it did not matter.

3) 71% voted that they would rather make a move on someone in person, while 29% voted they would rather do it through text/social media.

To my surprise, most people had a preference for communicating with others in person rather than indirectly. However, it did seem like it mattered whether the person they were talking to was just a friend or someone they viewed as more than a friend. In addition, I noticed that not everyone who voted for in-person communication, also voted that they would make a move on someone in-person. The people who voted this way also said that it did matter who they were talking to in the second question. An inference can be made that in general, young people prefer to talk to each other in person, contrary to what older generations think, however it may be a different dynamic between their friends and those who they want for more than friends, which can result to a different style of communication as well.

My biggest surprise was actually the last question, as I have personally witnessed others around my age turn to text or social media to make their moves on their person of interest rather than go up to them and ask them out. Of course, the poll is not representative of everyone, and my personal observations of others may not be the same for everyone. Perhaps, then, that young people today still value in-person communication, but the question should be redirected toward their chivalry tactics. It is easier, after all, to say what one may not say in person, through text or social media, where they can be in the comfort of their homes or wherever they may be, behind a screen, and away from the person they are talking to.

In all honesty, I'm happy that majority of voters preferred in-person communication--not to prove something to older adults but for the withstanding appreciation for human contact within my generation. Sometimes you get so immersed within the modern world that you become a bit cynical-- you begin to think that perhaps the adults are right-- the world has changed, and no one wants to talk to each other anymore. That is not the case, at least not yet, and hopefully it never will be. Sometimes it's nice be proven wrong in the best way.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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