It's Time To Mind Our Own Business

It’s Time To Mind Our Own Business

There might even be less drama this way.

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It doesn't matter if you're 12 years old or 25 years old, people love to stick their noses where they don't belong. As a society, let's make it a goal to base our opinions and judgments off of our own encounters rather than making someone else the enemy based on a summarized story of misinterpreted events.

Just because your friend doesn't like someone, doesn't mean you have to dislike them, too.

Everyone is guilty of this, myself included. It's important to respect the loyalty between a friendship, of course, but sometimes it's taken a step too far.

Snide remarks and dirty looks are immature. It's okay to dislike someone, but learn to coexist, especially if the issue doesn't involve you.

I don't understand why friends feel the need to make everyone's problems their own. Part of growing up is learning to deal with issues head-on instead of having your entire girl gang unfollow one person on Instagram. Instead, offer some words of advice that may resolve said issue rather than creating a long-term enemy.

People can be vicious in the way they belittle someone's reputation without realizing the impact on the other's self-esteem. Imagine being on the receiving end of those crude comments. It's time to become the person who shuts down the negativity, not the one who creates it.

Let breakups stay between the two exes.

I would love to scream this one louder for those in the back, but my voice doesn't reach that volume.

Mending a broken heart is a challenge in itself, but when you have friends with input, it makes the break up even harder to handle. Don't get me wrong, you always need a support system through any hardship, but when friends begin to choose sides and talk poorly of the other party involved, the drama starts to form.

Let the former relationship run its course without having unnecessary outsiders provide their two cents. It's easy to talk down on an ex for the sake of making your friend feel better, but it doesn't make it right. Unless you have had a personal relationship with the ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend in question, keep your opinions to yourself, that also includes approaching their friends, you're only making matters worse.

One drunk weekend doesn't define who someone else is.

So you saw someone you follow on Instagram, drunk at DJ's or being carried out of afters, that doesn't mean they're a bad person. Let's remember that Syracuse is the #4 party school according to Princeton Review, so we're all going to have at least one drunk mistake in these next four years.

Students work hard during the week in order to party harder on the weekends. That's just the nature of college life. Stop demeaning the guy or girl who took it a little too far. We all have different morals and opinions, so allow each other to make decisions without feeling scrutinized with disapproval.

Judgments tend to be based on first impressions, and while often times they are important, a person's character stems much deeper than a casual night out. Having heart-to-heart conversations about love, life and emotions reveal a lot more about an individual than a drunken encounter.

Stop thinking you know everything about everyone.

Instagram and Snapchat only portray the superficial nature of an individual. Just because you follow someone on both platforms does not mean you know the intricacies of their personal life.

It isn't right to call someone fake based off of their Instagram profile, especially having never met them before. The sole purpose of Instagram is to showcase the places we have been and the friends that we have. It is near impossible to obtain an accurate judge of character from an accumulation of squares.

It shouldn't be hard to take a step back and realize that the way we treat others is hypocritical when we expect respectful treatment in return. We reap what we sow into the relationships and environment around us. Instead of investing so much time in other's lives, we should invest time in our own. Become the better person, become the change this society needs to see.

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Saying Goodbye To Freshman Year

"High School goes by fast, but college goes by even faster."
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“High School goes by fast, but college goes by even faster”, we’ve all heard it and probably all ignored it as well. I mean time is time. It moves at the same pace no matter what you’re doing right?

Nope.

High School is over, I’m now a freshman in college and it’s April. I’m sitting here in my dorm looking at all my clothes, and bins thinking, how in the hell will this all fit in my car again? It is crazy, I need to be thinking about all of this now because there is one month of my freshman year left, just one.

All I can keep thinking is how? Wasn’t it just last week that I moved into my cozy room at the end of the hall, or just yesterday that I ran home to two hundred beautiful new sisters? As much as it seems like yesterday, it wasn’t.

It was almost eight months ago that I stepped onto this campus as a freshman, now it is my last four weeks and they are jam-packed. From formal to finals I am in the home stretch of my first year of college. I just registered for my classes next semester, and can’t get it through my head that I will soon be a sophomore.

While walking around campus I still catch myself thinking, wow I am really here. I am a college student, at a school, I fall more in love with every day. So, how can I be a sophomore now when I feel like I just got here?

Yes, I still have three amazing years of college ahead of me, and I can’t wait to see what those years have in store in for me. But, I just can’t help but feel a little sad that I won’t be a freshman anymore. I won’t be the youngest in my sorority family, I won’t be coming back to a dorm every night.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am stoked to live in an apartment next year with my absolute best friends. And you definitely could have heard me saying “I am so over this whole dorm thing” once or twice this semester, but now I can’t help but see all the things I’ll miss.

Freshman year is just unique. You get this giant clean slate, a fresh start. And it is just waiting to see what you’ll do with it. It truly is a year of firsts. My first failure, the first time being on my own, my first time not knowing anyone in my classes. Yes, that can all be a lot to take on, I was terrified at the start of the school year. But before I knew it, I had a routine, I had friends, I had a life here.

And this life surpassed all my expectations. I have a home away from home. I have friends that I know will be my bridesmaids some day. I have experiences that I’ll never forget.

Now as I head back home for the summer I couldn’t be more excited to be with my friends there and my family. But, I also couldn’t be sadder to leave my friends here, even if it’s only for three months because they’ve become another kind of family.

Despite leaving freshman year behind, we have so many more memories to make whether it’s doing the Seminole chop in Doak, coordinating our Halloween costumes, or just chilling at the house. We’ve all come so far this year, and I can’t wait to see just how far we go. So bring it on Sophomore year, I’m ready for ya.

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The 7 Best Pieces Of Advice I Have Been Given About Life

Some of the best advice I have been given over the years...

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There isn't a central theme among these pieces of advice or sayings. They are all just random things I have been told over the course of my life–especially in the last week. I find these 7 to be particularly helpful in various situations, and try to keep them in mind when I am in over my head.

1. "Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself because there is nobody who is going to help you more than you."

You are the #1 person who can help your own case. No one knows you as you do, therefore no one will be able to help you more than you can help yourself. A lot of things are mental, so once you can convince yourself that you deserve something (whatever it may be) you can convince anyone. Another saying goes along with this, on the flip side: "No one can diminish you but yourself." You are in control of your own self-perception, and you are very much capable of being your own worst enemy.

2. "Stand behind your reputation because you can never get it back."

My mom sent this to me the other day. Be who you are, and do it proudly. Especially with meeting people for the first time, you can never have a second chance at a first impression. That being said, if people view you in a bad light, figure out why that is and fix it. You may not be able to change someones initial thoughts of you, but you can change the way they view you after that.

3. "The best things in life happen unexpectedly."

"Life is what happens when you're busy making plans," also goes along with this. Trying to plan out every little detail of your life is only going to lead to disappointment. Sometimes you find the best things/what you're looking for when you're not actually looking. Just go through the motions and things will work out the way they are supposed to.

4. "Be proud of your accomplishments, no matter how small."

It's important to celebrate the little things. Did you go to class today? Good for you. Did you decide to drink water instead of a soda? That's awesome. How are you going to work up to doing bigger and better things if you don't have anywhere to start?

5. "Whatever you're stressing about now probably won't matter in five years."

As someone who is often eaten away by their own worry and anxiety, this is a mantra that I try to constantly remind myself. While it may seem like a big deal now, you need to keep in mind the bigger picture. Will it matter in 5 hours? 5 days? 5 months? And so on. If the answer is no to ANY of these questions, it's probably not worth beating yourself up over.

6. "Stop being the 'go to' person for someone you can't go to."

Someone tweeted that their pastor said this to them and the tweet went viral. A friend of mine sent it to me, and it really made me think. Something I have struggled with over the years is making excuses for people who don't show up for me when I am constantly there for them. This is a helpful reminder that if they aren't contributing to you and your life, you shouldn't have to bend over backward to help them out and be in their lives.

7. "Two wrongs don't make a right."

While this is often a saying that parents use on their young children, it is applicable to pretty much any stage of life. My parents, especially my dad, have constantly said this, whether it was in reference to fighting with my siblings or dealing with people at school. Even as a 20-year-old, I find myself saying this when I hear about arguments and problems people are having. Everyone wants to get even, to best those who hurt them. While it's important to stick up for yourself, it is also important to be the bigger person and not stoop to their level (and whatever else your parents told you in these situations).

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