It's Time To Mind Our Own Business

It’s Time To Mind Our Own Business

There might even be less drama this way.


It doesn't matter if you're 12 years old or 25 years old, people love to stick their noses where they don't belong. As a society, let's make it a goal to base our opinions and judgments off of our own encounters rather than making someone else the enemy based on a summarized story of misinterpreted events.

Just because your friend doesn't like someone, doesn't mean you have to dislike them, too.

Everyone is guilty of this, myself included. It's important to respect the loyalty between a friendship, of course, but sometimes it's taken a step too far.

Snide remarks and dirty looks are immature. It's okay to dislike someone, but learn to coexist, especially if the issue doesn't involve you.

I don't understand why friends feel the need to make everyone's problems their own. Part of growing up is learning to deal with issues head-on instead of having your entire girl gang unfollow one person on Instagram. Instead, offer some words of advice that may resolve said issue rather than creating a long-term enemy.

People can be vicious in the way they belittle someone's reputation without realizing the impact on the other's self-esteem. Imagine being on the receiving end of those crude comments. It's time to become the person who shuts down the negativity, not the one who creates it.

Let breakups stay between the two exes.

I would love to scream this one louder for those in the back, but my voice doesn't reach that volume.

Mending a broken heart is a challenge in itself, but when you have friends with input, it makes the break up even harder to handle. Don't get me wrong, you always need a support system through any hardship, but when friends begin to choose sides and talk poorly of the other party involved, the drama starts to form.

Let the former relationship run its course without having unnecessary outsiders provide their two cents. It's easy to talk down on an ex for the sake of making your friend feel better, but it doesn't make it right. Unless you have had a personal relationship with the ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend in question, keep your opinions to yourself, that also includes approaching their friends, you're only making matters worse.

One drunk weekend doesn't define who someone else is.

So you saw someone you follow on Instagram, drunk at DJ's or being carried out of afters, that doesn't mean they're a bad person. Let's remember that Syracuse is the #4 party school according to Princeton Review, so we're all going to have at least one drunk mistake in these next four years.

Students work hard during the week in order to party harder on the weekends. That's just the nature of college life. Stop demeaning the guy or girl who took it a little too far. We all have different morals and opinions, so allow each other to make decisions without feeling scrutinized with disapproval.

Judgments tend to be based on first impressions, and while often times they are important, a person's character stems much deeper than a casual night out. Having heart-to-heart conversations about love, life and emotions reveal a lot more about an individual than a drunken encounter.

Stop thinking you know everything about everyone.

Instagram and Snapchat only portray the superficial nature of an individual. Just because you follow someone on both platforms does not mean you know the intricacies of their personal life.

It isn't right to call someone fake based off of their Instagram profile, especially having never met them before. The sole purpose of Instagram is to showcase the places we have been and the friends that we have. It is near impossible to obtain an accurate judge of character from an accumulation of squares.

It shouldn't be hard to take a step back and realize that the way we treat others is hypocritical when we expect respectful treatment in return. We reap what we sow into the relationships and environment around us. Instead of investing so much time in other's lives, we should invest time in our own. Become the better person, become the change this society needs to see.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Why You Should Bring Your Close Friend As Your Formal Date

Before asking that cute girl to formal think about asking a friend


Every year since I was a junior in high school I have always looked forward to homecoming or prom. When I got to college I began to look forward to my fraternity formal. I was never concerned with what to wear or the expense of formal but rather who I was going to ask. It can be difficult to make a decision. If you ask anyone friends with me they will tell you how I am one of the most indecisive people out there. There are so many people I am friendly with or have a close relationship that it can feel difficult to make a decision. But let's look at that phrase again. You might think why does he want to bring someone who is his friend to his fraternity formal rather than someone he likes or is dating. To answer this question, some of the girls I have liked I have not been able to be the true me around and that also applies to the girls I have dated as well. I am different around my friends and I want someone to know the real me rather than me just having to pretend.

Maybe I am still experiencing the effects of a fun weekend but I have noticed that every formal or prom that I have brought a date with not only was a fun formal but interacted and connected well with my friends. That is the main thing I look for in a formal date, they need to be liked by my friends and many of them are still pretty friendly after the formal. You are spending the weekend with them and the drive down for you formal. There will be a lot of time spent with your date so it is important to bring someone you know you will have fun with. I am not saying that there isn't anything wrong with bringing someone else but I always found it best to bring a friend if you are not dating someone.

Think about the people you know you will always have fun with. This can be an indication of who you should bring and why but you should also think about the positives in this situation. Your fun and the time spent with the people should be prioritized before anything else. This event is about you and you should have someone with you that you know is fun to be around and someone you can enjoy yourself around along with your friends. Friends know you as well as you know yourself so there is not an idea of having to pretend to be someone else. The good thing about friends is that you do not run out of things to talk about and there is always something new to learn. Take your formal as a trip that you get to experience with the people closest to you. That is my take.

The key for me is to know that I will have fun with my date at formal. The drive to formal can be long and you are sharing a hotel room with your date along with spending time with them during the trip. I talk a lot. I want someone I know who I can carry a conversation with and will not just respond with words such as Yeah or Sounds good. I have always been able to remember not only my formals but specific parts of it as well. I think this is possible because of who I have brought and the memories I made with them.

Formals are important to everyone so think about who you want to spend that moment with. There is nothing wrong with bringing someone who you like but there also is nothing wrong with bringing a friend. Some people might bring someone they are dating but you should not have to compare yourself to other people. Do what makes you happy but remember this weekend is about you and you deserve to bring someone you will have fun with.

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