What happened to dating nowadays?
We are the generation of advancement in technology, healthcare, science and multiple frontiers. Yet we would rather run in front of a bus than have honest, straight-forward conversations about relationships. We shrink under the thought of having to define relationships and put the label of "boyfriend/girlfriend" or "significant other." We hide behind our phone screens and instead of breaking up with someone in person, we just stop talking to them completely (known as "ghosting"). We pursue emotional fulfillment through snapchatting and texting, using various apps to chat and meet new people in the hopes of filling some hole. We place more value on maintaining a snapchat streak rather than going on actual dates.
We took the value out of meaningful conversation and getting to know someone on a deeper level. We are constantly looking for something, or someone, better to come along never bothering to appreciate what we have in front of us. We have people we "talk to," "have a thing with," and have someone you "hang out" with. We want the support and benefits of a relationship without having to put in the time and effort of a relationship. We want companionship but not commitment, attention but not 100% undivided devotion. We want connection but not too much. We have the ideals of the fairytales we watched growing up but we have no idea how to attain that. We wish for the princess or prince charming to complete us, but when things get too real we run away. The thing is, millennials, we run when things get too real or honest. But at the end of the day, we still want someone to spend rainy afternoons with snuggled up watching The Notebook with for the 50th time. We want someone to commit to so badly, but are so afraid of getting hurt that we hide behind our phones and pretend like we never met anyone who could ever break our hearts.
