Do Millennials Believe In Soul Mates?

Do Millennials Believe In Soul Mates?

Does the generation with the oldest median age to get married believe in predestined relationships?

Oxford Dictionary defines soulmates as "A person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner." But can you really put a textbook definition to such a strong word? Looking deeper, I tried to find the beginnings of the name, before the poems and the music preaching about pre-destined relationships and "the one."

According to, "The concepts of soulmates arose from Hellenic mythology. According to the story, our ancestors once had 2 heads, 4 arms. They did something to offend a god so that god punished them by splitting them down the middle, resulting in the creation of humans. As a punishment, we are condemned to spend our lives searching for the other half, our soulmates."

But do millennials believe in this notion? Millennials have the highest median age for marriage compared to every other generation. (For women the median age is 27 for marriage and the median for men is 29.) Do millennial's believe the history and destiny tied to the words "soul mate?"

Here is what 17 millennials had to say when I asked them what they thought of these 2 words.

1. "I think soul mates exist, but I don't think they're necessarily romantic. Everyone meets their soul mate, but you may not realize it because you're too busy looking for perfection elsewhere."
- Grace. 19

2. "In the Bible, there is not a verse that specifically states that each person has one soul mate, but I do believe that God guides us in all areas of our lives. Especially our romantic relationships."
- Jen. 22

3. "Yes, I believe in soul mates. Mostly, kindred spirits. It doesn't have to be a romantic thing."
- Jose. 19

4. "I do not believe in soul mates. I believe that there is most definitely a reason that we end up with the person we marry, but I don't think there is just one person out there for everyone. There are many emotional ties that you may only feel for one person, but I don't think that necessarily makes them your soul mate."
- Shannon. 20

5. "I don’t believe in soul mates, but I do believe that God puts people in your life for a reason."
- Makena. 19

6. "From a gospel-centered view, I believe in soul mates functionally but not practically. God has planned who I am going to marry, but it is not my business to figure it out prior to meeting her at the altar."
- Tyler. 22

7. "I believe that we all have soul mates; one person that we are meant to love for our lifetime. Meaning that no matter how long or short there is one person destined for us all and we only will have the pleasure of meeting them if we work hard to make all relationships worthwhile. This, in theory, sounds so easy, but I believe that relationships take work so it is something that requires effort and does not just happen on its own."
- Lauren. 19

8. "I don't believe in soul mates. I don't think that relationships are predestined, they need work and communication to thrive."
- Jake. 20

9. "I think soul-mates are real, they're that someone who you never dread seeing. It doesn't have to be romantic, you just click with that person."
- Kenzie. 16

10. "I don’t believe in soul mates soul mates, but I believe that God has a certain person picked out for us that we are meant to be with. And through Him, He will lead us to cross paths and everything will click."
- Lily. 19

11. "I do believe in soul mates but with a twist. I believe that there are a select few that could potentially be a soul mate. I believe that who we choose to marry is directed by God."
- Andrew. 20

12. "I don't believe in soul mates, I believe you can find someone you mesh with."
- Larsa. 21

13. "No. If you find someone who lines up with your core values, it could be anyone.
- Kyle. 20.

14. "I do believe that soul mates are real. A soul mate is a person that God intended you to be with. The person who is undeniably the one that your heart longs for."
- Rosalie. 18

15. "I don't necessarily believe in soulmates. I believe I have control over who I end up with, within the word of the God."
- Brandon. 22

16. "No, I do not. I think that there are several people that you could happily spend your life with entirely in love. However, I think that once you find someone who is right for you, your love can last forever."
- Mackenzie. 20

17. "I, being the hopeless romantic and cynic all in one, still believe in soul mates. I've always believed that there is someone out there in the world that a person belongs with. Now, I don't think it's some love at first sight type stuff and that it'll be perfect with zero ups and downs. I think it's a matter of being with a person who compliments you in every way but also pushes you to be better than you were the day before. Sometimes your soul mate turns out to be a person you just met or it's a person you've been friends with your entire life. Who knows. I think that's the only crappy part- you never really know for sure."
- Maribel. 19

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10 Things To Know Before You Date A 'Car Guy'

Caution, there are two loves of his life: his car and you.

Dating a guy with a nice car seems cool, but slowly you will find out the perks and flaws of dating a car guy. You may have a sweet ride to cruise downtown on the weekends in, but serious rules apply to the life of the car guy. With that being said, here are some things you may want to know before dating that dreamy guy with the nice car. You have been warned.

1. Unthinkable amounts of money will be spent on car parts

No matter what, he will always be thinking of the next modification to put on his car, or some new part that he "needs" to make his car the best. Spending a grand on a new set of wheels seems like no problem to him, while you are sitting eating ramen on the top bunk of your college bed with three dollars in your bank account.

2. Weekends will always consist of at least one car event

"Hey babe do you want to go out tonight" will quickly turn into "Hey babe want to come with me to a car meet tonight". Although it may make you cringe, power through one or two of them, it will make your S.O. one happy guy, plus you may even enjoy it once you get out there.

3. Five more minutes under the hood is never five minutes

Whenever he tells you he will be done with his car soon, you might as well crack open a book because you will have a while. Catch up on some homework or errands you need to get done because I guarantee you it will take a while. Two hours later, maybe, he might be ready to spend some time with you.

4. He will refer to his car as "her" or "baby"

If you hear him say "My baby is looking good today" don't freak out. He's most likely talking about his car, not another girl. Get used to this name because it will most likely never go away.

5. You'll always be able to hear your S.O.'s arrival

It's something about car guys that makes them believe the louder the car the better. This comes in handy when you are able to hear your S.O's arrival so you are able to pull yourself together before he just walks on in. Surprise visits when you are unpresentable are eliminated.

6. Conversations will always lead to confusion

Once he starts talking about the new exhaust kit he wants to put on his car, you're lost. Just smile and nod ladies, it makes the conversation go by much quicker.

7. Never slam a car door

I learned this one the hard way. Just don't do it. Ever. Or your S.O. will be personally offended by your action and insist you apologize to the car personally.

8. Eating in the car comes with great caution

Eating in his car is a rare task that takes much skill. Although your S.O. won't have the heart to say no to your Chick-fil-a craving, he may cringe at the thought of Chick-fil-a sauce getting onto his freshly cleaned seats. Be careful, or just eat inside.

9. He will have two loves of his life: his car and you

His love for cars came before his love for girls, remember that. You are the love of his life, but so is his car. So you'll have to learn to share him just a little.

10. But in the end, he loves you just as much, if not more, than he does his car.

At the end of the day, you are his girlfriend and his love for you is massive. Although some days it may not feel like it you are loved just as much, if not more, than the shiny piece of metal he calls baby. Remember his car can't quite feed him and give him massive bear hugs like you do. You will always be important and very much loved.

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To The Boy I’ve Been Dating Since I Was 15, I Always Knew You Were My Forever

Thank you for showing me love when I thought I didn't deserve any.


Hey you,

People assumed our "fling" would only last a few short months. It's what everyone assumes when your first love happens during your sophomore year of high school. Yet here we stand, three and a half years later, more together than we've ever been. Although we've had our ups and downs, we still managed to keep our relationship going and to remember why we're together in the first place.

Many say loving isn't easy, but you make it a walk in the park.

You respect me in more ways than one, and you make me feel beautiful, inside and out. For a long time, I never noticed the beauty and strength I have within myself. I didn't see what others would point out to me, and at times I still find it hard to acknowledge my worth. However, you came into my life at a time when I felt I had no one, and you helped me to see all I have to offer. You helped me to open my mind to the thought of loving myself for who I am, and although the road is long and I'm not completely there, you've made me see how worthy of love I truly am.

Having you as my best friend, along with being my boyfriend, is the most rewarding feeling in the world.

I think the reason we rarely fight or stay angry with each other is that we truly are best friends. We could spend all of our time in deep conversation about any topic in the world and still feel engaged and ready to hear more from one another. Every single day I learn something new about you and vice versa. We can be ourselves in each other's presence and have fun doing absolutely nothing exciting. I am easily annoyed by a lot of things, but you are not one of them. Being with you for hours, even if we just watch TV the entire time, never gets repetitive or boring.

You treated me with the respect I deserved before I even realized I was worthy of it.

In many ways, I don't respect myself. Whether it be body image or letting "friends" walk all over me, I let many thoughts and people control my life. You, however, were the saving grace I needed. You've shown me how I deserve to be treated and how I should think of myself. Often I wonder how I got so lucky to end up with someone who loves me unconditionally and who values everything I have to offer. I say all the time that I don't deserve your heart, your kindness, your love, but you always remind me that I do. And I'm starting to realize that you're right; I deserve every bit of love, kindness, and respect that you have to offer. I can only hope that I award you with the same love and selflessness you give me every single day.

Three and a half years with someone may seem extremely long, but I feel as though we've been together a lifetime. It's hard to remember a time when you weren't right there beside me, and I would never want to imagine a future without you in it. There are so many more laughs, adventures, and memories to be made with you, and I only hope that I can be at least half of the person you are.

Thank you for pulling me out of the darkness. Today, tomorrow, and always.

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