To My Former Middle School Self

To My Former Middle School Self

Trust me, it gets better.

First, chill out. Struggling with science or math is not the end of the world. It may feel like you’re the only one who doesn’t get it, but you shouldn’t feel so ashamed of yourself. You’re doing the best you can with what you are given. Just accept the help that is offered to you and don’t feel embarrassed for needing it. Each and every one of the seemingly perfect people around you will one day find something that makes them feel just as confused and lost as you feel in pre-algebra. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to teach yourself things in the way that is best for you, which will be immeasurably helpful once high school and college come around.

Second, don’t care so much about people who judge you because you’re different. At some point in your life, it really is going to be a virtue to be different from everyone else. Middle school is a time when everyone is desperate to fit in, and you will have some trouble finding your “clique.” The way to solve this is not by trying to convince your parents to buy you the purses or shoes that the other girls have. Don't feel bad about the fact that you don't know what all trends are. The reason that you don't fit in well with those girls is not because you have crooked teeth or don't wear makeup to school. You'll hear people say this so many times on TV and in books and think that it's just a stupid cliché, but it really is true that physical appearance is not the most important part of a person.

Next, don't feel ashamed of your interests. People may say you're a nerd, but I am here to tell you that being a nerd is in no way a bad thing. Their approval is not what you should be striving for right now. Don’t try to change who you are just to make them like you. Keep watching your science fiction shows and classic movies, read in your spare time, and do as much art as you want. The world needs more people like you and, eventually, you will meet people who share your interests and connect with your personality. It feels like you're the only person in the entire school who enjoys the things that you enjoy, but don't let that stop you. SPOILER ALERT: it doesn't, and I am so immensely proud of you because of that.

Lastly, I want you to know that the best times of your life are ahead of you. Even though you may feel like an outcast now, you will come to realize that being surrounded by people who think they're better than you is not what friendship is supposed to be. You'll instead find people who accept you for who you are and who you can be completely yourself with. The times with them will be the best ones of your life. You'll be motivated to strive to do the best you can in school. Your confidence will grow. You will become more willing to put yourself out there, and you will be rewarded.

So here’s to you. Keep up the good work. And trust me, it gets better.

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My Roommate Was Once A Stranger, But Now She's My Best Friend And Sister

Sometimes it's a random person that becomes your best friend.

Climbing out of my father's charcoal black car, I nervously twitched at the uncertainty of my upcoming week. Quietly waltzing over to my temporary dorm room, I lingered by the door frame as I thought about my approaching Rush week, where I would be selected to join a sorority.

In a stressful tension, I curled myself onto a chair watching reruns of "The Office," pondering if my roommate would be joining me soon. When suddenly a tall, red-haired female clamored into the room, with two doting parents closely behind her. Feeling awkward my shoulders rose as I stretched out my small hand to introduce myself, which she delicately shook.

Attempting to appear relaxed, I crumpled myself on my bed to give them the space to move my roommate’s items into their places. Trying to distill the uneasiness in the air about living with a stranger for a week, I squeaked out a few surface-level questions that she provided short, unemotional answers towards.

I had heard that these temporary roommates were not people that one should expect to become close to because they quickly flutter out of your life, leaving you nothing but cordial waves and distant memories.

Therefore, I anticipated that we would be nothing more than civil acquaintances, who would just periodically like a post from social media once Rush week concluded.

However, we decided to eat dinner together and I was glad to not be eating alone. Although the dinner started quiet, the conversation quickly flowed and I discovered the similar amount we had in common, such as being only children and enjoying dance as a pastime activity in high school.

Quickly we became casual friends that grew into a deeper friendship as the week progressed.

From both of us bonding over not being asked back to a certain house that we enjoyed visiting, to coordinating outfits and dealing with judgmental glances from girls all day.

During this treacherous week of constantly being compared to other girls deciding if we were adequate enough to enter their sacred institution, I was grateful to have a new friend who didn’t criticize every move or comment I made.

After we survived this gruesome week, we gave each other a hug and said a somber goodbye.

Once I entered my sorority house, I tugged upstairs to my new pocket-sized room. But as soon as I wandered into the room I saw my red-haired roommate, who held a warm smile and gave me an enthusiastic hug as I entered. Quickly, I realized that she was my friend from the Rush.

Now, two years later, we are still roommate and best friends.

For sometimes fate gives you a friend when you need one the most. With strangers quickly becoming your closest friends, while lowered expectations make you open enough to gain best friends.

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You Are What You Eat, You Are What You Read

“Would many choices be better than limited choices?”

Every day, choosing what to wear and what to eat are hard tasks. And if there is no satisfactory clothing and location that bump into mind, we may feel uncomfortable with the clothing we wear for the day, and there is a possibility for us to skip the meal, though sometimes the hunger holds.

Once I saw a friend posting “When would our hesitation of deciding what to wear and what to eat come to an end?”, a normal and typical complain of our mundane life. For no reason, I started thinking, when and how would this “problem” resolve itself? Sure, I was very curious about the answer as well.

Later, I have arrived at two answers. The positive one would be that we know exactly what we want to wear and eat, though there are many choices ahead, we would directly choose the one that is in mind, without hesitation. While the negative one would be, there is only one choice hanging, that we have no other choice.

I was terrified of the answers immediately.

Washington D.C. is a small city geographically, but as the capital, D.C. provides us multiple choices over many spectrums of our lives – internships, sightseeing sights, museums, National Mall, etc. Just like the difficulty posted earlier, we have too many choices.

“Would many choices be better than limited choices?” I guess this is the real question behind my friend's complains.

Normally, we believe more options are better than less, then the core of the question comes into the person:

What do you want?

Who do you want to be?

And all I can think of are:

You are what you eat.

You are what you read.

We probably arrived at this philosophical question about what is contained in our bodies? Physically, the food we eat largely determines our health conditions. As most of us pursue our lives to be healthy, we have created a healthy diet, which introduced the better eating styles with a certain percentage of specific kinds of food. In this case, "eating" not only represents a mere action, it also determines our lifestyles and the physical appearance of ourselves.

Outside of physical health, mental health is the other very important category for people in this time era to take good care of. And the easiest way to build up our mental stability is to read, so we can learn more about the world and then to understand ourselves.

Eating and reading are the two inseparable parts of our daily lives, and to be more alive, continuing the two actions and trying to do our best in the two categories should be our goal of living. Because we know, they are the paths to the future we desire.

We are what we eat, and we are what we read.

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