Being A Middle Child Prepared Me For Life

Being A Middle Child Prepared Me For Life

According to Urban Dictionary, "the oldest child gets all the awards, the younger gets all the love, and the middle gets nothing."


Middle children typically have low self-esteem, are introverts, have pangs of jealousy, feel unworthy, seek attention and have trust issues.

Hi, I'm Kiley and I'm a middle child.

While growing up, I can definitely say those characteristics, among others, applied to me. However, growing up as a middle child has made me stronger, independent, and ultimately prepared for my life as an adult.

With my independence, I've never had to rely on other people to be there for me or to do things for me, I've become very good at doing that all on my own. Of course, my parents are there for me and always have been. I would say my parents did a better job dealing with me as a middle child than other parents do. With that being said though, there were still times when I had to rely on my own independence. I always remember when we'd go on vacations growing up, it'd be my dad and sister and mom and brother. I would just be in the middle trying to join in on the conversations each pair had. That's changed a little bit now, which I'm grateful for. But I've noticed since I've been away at college, it's starting to show up again since my sister still lives at home and my brother visits more than I do.

I know I have to do more to get noticed, which is why when I was younger I would throw random temper tantrums. But now, I just push myself to achieve my goals and get awards to get noticed. That has always made me extremely hardworking, ambitious, and made me strive more for my own success.

I've never felt like I've had to conform to people's behaviors or beliefs. I'm always on my own, and I know who I am from the countless times I've had to be by myself while my parents and siblings had their own conversations. It's never been hard for me to make friends, if you don't like me, you don't like me, don't worry about it — I've got it all under control.

I've always been a risk-taker, sometimes I do things without thinking (yeah, sometimes that has a VERY negative effect) and I've consistently been open to new things. This has helped me step up so much in my academic career and just in my personal life in general.

Again, my parents do better than a lot of other ones. I would never say I was neglected, or even forgotten about, sometimes I just felt like they didn't know I was all there. But overall, I'm thankful for my parents for making me a middle child. I gained so many skills that have helped me in my life with college, jobs, internships, relationships, etc. So, thanks, mom and dad! I'm a middle child, and I'm pretty freaking great.

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To The Best Friend That Turned Into A Stranger

We were the type of friends that were so close people would mistake us for sisters. Then we went to college.


When you hear the world soulmate you think of the person you're destined to spend the rest of your life with.

The person you marry, have kids with, and love unconditionally for the rest of your life. For me, I found my soulmate. Not in a boy, but in a best friend.

We were the type of friends that were so close people would mistake us for sisters.

Some even thought my little sister was your twin. We did everything together, and quickly you became apart of my family. I think you spent the last 4 years staying at my house more than your own. Even when I was 10 hours away at college you were still there with my family.

We went through the ups and downs of high school together.

We were there for each other through every heartbreak, trauma, and loss. Even 549 miles away from each other, I knew you would be there anytime I needed you because we always stuck by each others sides.

We even got tattoos together, because we were the type of friends that would never not be in each other's lives. When people saw me, they saw you. If you weren't around, they would ask where you were.

Until everything fell apart, I left college and you went to college.

We didn't see each other as often as we did but we still talked. I could feel you pulling away and I didn't know why. You found a new friend, and i am so happy you did because the last thing I would want, would for you to be alone in college. But you quickly replaced me. You would come home during breaks and spend 1 day with me and the rest with her.

The reasoning why you said you weren't spending time with me was hurtful, and it's not something I'll mention here. But just know it hurts. Asking for you to give me back the key I gave you for my house hurt.

I know you've been through a lot, and even after all the fighting, I reached out to you.

Because I will always care about you and love you like a sister. But you can only try so hard to fight for someone that doesn't want to be in your life anymore.

I hope you find pure happiness, you deserve it. Just know I miss you and I always will. No one prepared me for the pain I would feel when losing my soulmate.

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When You Are The Youngest Of 6 Kids

Having five older siblings is the greatest blessing I could have ever asked for. I get best friends for life.


I am probably one of the luckiest people on the planet because I have so many brothers and sisters. I have three brothers and two sisters. I'm the youngest of the six, so I have had a pretty interesting experience growing up with a big family.

My oldest brother is ten years older than me. All of my siblings were born in the 90s and I wasn't, but I wanted to fit in with them. I had to make sure I watched the same TV shows and movies that they did so I could relate to them. I tried to play the same games that they played, such as SEGA and Nintendo. I was not very good at any of them, but I was just happy to be with my siblings.

Going to school was always interesting because I always had a teacher that one or more of my siblings already had. Every year in school from 1st grade to 12th grade, I always heard, "Oh, I had a few of your siblings." Then, for the rest of the year, my teachers would slip up every once in a while and call me one of my sisters' names. I understood, though, because all of us look alike, so I would just go along with it and act like that was my name.

With my sisters, the three of us look like triplets, even though we are years apart. I get called Jess or Jen a lot by my parents. By process of elimination, they eventually figure out my name. I'm used to it as I respond to anyone who calls me by one of my sister's names.

Being the youngest, I get to see all my brothers and sisters accomplish many things. I watch what they do and learn from it. The problem for me has always been that all of my siblings are brilliant. I have always had to live up to the standards that my siblings set. It hasn't always been easy.

It can be frustrating because anyone that knows my brothers and sisters will automatically compare me to them in terms of intelligence. For example, I took AP Statistics in high school. I knew my teacher had a few of my siblings who were very bright and did well in that class. My teacher probably thought I was an idiot because I struggled in that class.

I have to try and prove to people that I am my own person and that I am just related to really smart people.

I never needed to worry about friends at school because, at the end of the day, I always had my five best friends at home. When we were all younger, we had our own sleepovers and parties, and we played games all the time.

Whenever I needed help with homework, I had my own free tutors at home who were willing to help me understand algebra and biology. Even in college, I still go to them when I need help with an assignment.

They took care of me when I was younger whenever my parents were working. I had my other five parents who were ready to take care of me. They still take care of me today.

Now that I am an adult, I have had to start doing things for myself. It's kind of weird.

I always had everyone else do everything for me or with me. If I needed to go somewhere, they were my chauffeurs. If we went out to eat somewhere, they paid, but now I can drive myself around and pay for things with my own money.

At the end of the day, I have five best friends for life. For me, that is all I need.

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