To every boy that has declared, "I'm not into black girls,"
There’s nothing wrong with us, but there is something wrong with you...
To guys claiming they don’t like black girls. It’s your loss. Feel free to collect your L at the end of this article.
You say we’re ghetto and loud. I’m sorry, do I perpetuate your angry black girl stereotype? I sure as hell do. My anger is passion and defense. Passion, I have developed because I am talented and magnificent. And the defense, a mechanism I have consciously developed in a hostile world where nine-point ninety-nine times out of ten I am the minority.
You say you don’t like my hair. Well, guess what? I don’t care. My hair is an expression of who I am. An extension of my identity sprouting from the roots of my brain. You say weaves and braids are ratchet. And then praise those from other cultures who appropriate the very same thing I am ridiculed for. It’s okay, I’m sure Becky with the good hair and I got our extensions- I’m sorry weave, from the same shop.
What’s sad is that it’s becoming more prevalent and prevalent. Guy after guy declares the infamous “I don’t like black girls.”
It’s trendy. It’s trendy to dehumanize a whole intersection of people and deem them as “not worthy” when YOU’RE the one who’s not worthy. It’s disgusting. And to adolescent black girls with self-esteem and identity issues, it’s damaging. It hurts black girls from the second they step out into the world. It hurts knowing that guys don’t like them SOLELY because we are black. Nevermind the fact, that we are accomplished and intelligent and loving and caring and graceful.
This makes it harder for the only thing matters when it comes to identity. Self-acceptance. Again and again, heterosexual black women are reminded of their undesirability.
To these guys, acknowledge your faults, and racism and misogyny. Degrading black women is dehumanizing and wrong.
The best people I know are black girls. And despite this, that disgusting fact is thrown in our faces every day. But we are still thriving. We are still going to Ivy League schools and going to the best schools in the nation. We are still getting full rides while you pay full tuition. We are still beating out every single other person for the most competitive scholarships and awards. We are still excelling in every aspect of life.
Black women are the most fascinating creations in the world. Deal with it.
