Hello everyone! Another day! Another screw-up!
I hope everyone enjoyed my first entry!
For the last entry, I tried to identify some of my struggles with myself, family, relationships, friends and bullies.
It's hard for any of us to really crack down on how mental illness can be fixed or solved because well we have to live with this forever. And it completely sucks. No matter what medication, support or counseling we have, we are going to deal with this the best way we can.
I have had some hard times recently, I will touch on relationships for this entry. And will give you tips on how to face it
Relationships suck. They just do. They can be amazing and really awesome. And then, poof. They go down hill. Unless you are the relationship wizard and can make it work with your mental illness. If you can, then I bow down to you and you have to show me your ways. Anyway, in my life, relationships are a hit or miss. I'm either into you or really just want you to go away. I'm simple but hard to handle sometimes. Guys tend to think that they can put me out there as this an awesome person. Then they meet me, and they can't handle me. Don't make promises that you can't keep. I'm not a hater. It's just I hate getting hurt because of being sick mentally. I feel like you have to be a certain way for anyone to like you. But here's the thing, you don't have to act a certain way for anyone like to you. Be you, be yourself. If anyone doesn't like you, then well, that's their problem. Relationships are work. Here's what I see, people with mental illness try so hard for girls / guys to see past their flaws, their disorder, etc. They say they understand but they don't. It takes a special type to really get us. We are a rare breed in my book and we want to be understood.
Tips:
If you are starting to talk to a guy / girl, then please don't be afraid to tell them about your disorder until you are comfortable. You don't want to blurt it out first hand then they think they can handle it. It will go down hill from there, trust me.
If your significant other doesn't understand what to do in certain situations because of said disorder, then ask if they can go to a counseling session with you. That way, they can fully understand and maybe educate on what do to if a meltdown, etc., goes on.
If you two get into a fight, then just excuse yourself. Please leave the argument. Take a walk.
Don't lose your interests! Even if you are in a relationship or if mental illness takes over. keep doing them. Take pictures. Listen to music. Color in one of those coloring books. Watch a movie. Find something that can take your mind off of things.
Talk with your partner. Be calm, collected and positive.
Reassure us even if it's annoying but it's helpful to know that you care.
Love us for who we are. Don't feel sorry for us because of our disorder.
Plan a special weekend getaway or a fun date.
Relationships are a give and take with people with mental illness. It's either easy for us or it's really difficult. So please take note that we are people with feelings too! Don't let us go because of our disorder. I promise it's hard to find a lady who can actually put up with you. It's not hard.
