Let's face it, when you're below 25 and getting ready to get married or recently got married, people are usually looking at you like you're crazy or they immediately jump to conclusions about you and your relationship. I can relate. I recently got married at 19. Here are just some of the things we hear, and the responses we want to say as told be song lyrics.
Why: "Because I'm happy. Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof. Because I'm happy. Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth. Because I'm happy. Clap along if you know what happiness is to you. Because I'm happy. Clap along if you feel like that's what you wanna do." ("Happy" -Pharrell Williams) This may not be what you expected and you may not be happy about it, but we are so please let us be happy and be happy for us. Don't ruin what's supposed to be the happiest time of our lives by looking down on us.
Are you sure that this is what you want: "Yo, I'll tell you what I want, what I really, really want. So tell me what you want, what you really, really want. I'll tell you what I want, what I really, really want." ("Wannabe" -Spice Girls) We may be young, but we know what we want. If we've told you that this is what we want, then we want it. We're not doing this for anyone else, we're doing this for us.
You're too young to get married: "I know I'm still young. But, I know how I feel. I might not have too much experience. But, I know when love is real." ("I Love You This Big" -Scotty McCreery) We know we're young, but we don't care. Everyone is always telling us to grow up and be more mature, but the minute we do, we're in the wrong. Sure we've got our whole lives ahead of us, but the point is that we want to spend it together and grow together.
You won't be financially stable enough to live how you want: "Say you don't need no diamond ring. And I'll be satisfied. Tell me that you want those kind of things. That money just can't buy. I don't care too much for money. For money can't buy me love" ("Can't Buy Me Love" -The Beatles) Sure we may not have that much money for extravagant things at first, but money can't be happiness, or as the song suggests, love. You can't tell me that when you first got married you were able to but anything and everything you wanted. We more than likely have a plan and have thought this through. Just because we're young doesn't mean that we forget about all the "adult" things.
We may not be "older and wiser," but we are happy. Let us live and make our own mistakes. And if it doesn't work out, be there to pick up the pieces instead of saying "I told you so." Just because we're getting married or are married doesn't mean that you'll lose us. You're just gaining someone else.
