“They aren’t ready for marriage, they are too young!”
I am a soon-to-be 20 year old who has always considered marriage to be a commitment to be saved for at least the late twenties or early thirties, but my views have changed. While I am still not looking for marriage anytime soon, I have many peers who have already married, or are currently engaged to what seem to be their soulmates.
To those who are young and engaged or married, especially my best friend, Alyssa, who will have just married by the time this article is published, I think you guys are crazy! Absolutely crazy. But everyone knows that life needs a little crazy. Some of you guys will be making the best decision of your life, and some of you will be making a decision that may catch up to you later in life. Do what you think is right for you. People can tell you that it is not the right time, or not the right move, but nobody will ever be more sure than the two making the commitment.
Any couple that has been in a happy marriage will not hesitate to tell you that they hope to spend many more years together. As everybody knows, life can be short, so it should not be a bad thing that you want to get a head start with your significant other!
The bottom line is that, for a while, people will tell you that you should have waited; they will say that there is no “right time” to marry, but it is definitely not this soon. On the bright side, give it a few more years, and the concerns of marrying too young will no longer be relevant to your situation.
The great thing about marriage, too, is that you are never in it alone. If you had a rough day, your partner is there to buy you ice cream. Facing tough life decisions? You have a valuable second opinion. If you, like me, are not into the whole young marriage scene, you still probably wish you always have someone to buy the 2-for-$20 deal at Applebee's.
If you are entering a new chapter of your life through an engagement or through a marriage, I am happy for you. Everyone should be happy for you. And if there are people who are quick to tell you that you are making the wrong choice by starting your next chapter with your significant other so soon, be quick to prove them wrong.
To my amazing friends Alyssa and Jonah, you guys happen to be lovers who many say are too young for this invaluable institution we call marriage. But you guys also happen to be perfect for each other. I wish nothing but the best life for you two and for everyone else who is getting engaged or getting married. Congratulations to you two, and to all of the young lovers out there who are getting married. May the world keep spinning amidst all of this craziness.
