To The Man Who Got The Warning Signs And Decided To Stay

To The Man Who Got The Warning Signs And Decided To Stay

You read “To The Next One Who Decides To Date Me” and yet you still want me.
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To You,

I honestly did not know that you would stay. I have had people coming in and out of my life on a constant and I would not have been surprised if it was the same with you. I held a wall up every time we saw each other, every time you looked at me and you noticed but it did not push you away. It just made you curious.

I intrigued you, you wanted to know why I am the way that I am and who changed me. As of right now, I still have part of my wall up, but every day that I am with you, it gets chipped away.

I want you to know that life is not rainbows and gumdrops and even though you look at me now like I am the most perfect girl in the world, I am anything but perfect. There will be days when you are frustrated with me, there will be days that we do not talk. It will suck, I know, but being attached at the hip is not the best thing either.

My life was pretty good without you and it can still stand alone. You are falling for a girl who can stand on her own two feet, who can buy her own Taco Bell and can drive your car without crashing it. I do not know what your last girlfriend did and frankly, I do not care.

Obviously something went wrong or you would not be with me right now, sitting on my bed. I will learn from her mistakes as you will learn from my exes’ mistakes. That is a factor as to what will make us great.



When I look into your eyes, I can see so much wonder, so much interest and so much life and I am excited to take this path with you and learn so much more. I warned you about how I will constantly ask questions. I am a journalist, what did you expect? You talk about your future all the time and sometimes you mention me in it and that brings butterflies to me but it can also be a bit scary.

I want to thank you for giving us such hope, even when sometimes its not realistic. I am the negative one out of the two of us and it is refreshing to hear your plans of life. I want to thank you for all the hugs you have given me, all the thigh rubs and words of encouragement even when you knew I messed up.

You are my friend. Always and forever and when you read this letter, I hope you know how much more you mean to me. You told me you’d never let me go, well now is the time to prove it.

Cover Image Credit: Deb Greengold

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.
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Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.

Sincerely,

Your Son’s Girlfriend

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I’d Much Rather Celebrate Valentine’s Day With My Single Girlfriends Than Any Guy

Bring on the pizza and ice cream because Valentine's Day is Girls Only this year.

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Being single during any time of the year is difficult, but it can be even harder with Valentine's Day quickly approaching. People either love it or love to hate it. It's a day filled with dramatic romantic gestures, carefully planned dates, and an abundance of roses and chocolates. Well, at least for some it is. The pressure to have a "Valentine" as well as have the perfect evening is so high that in my option it completely takes the fun out of the day. So this Valentine's Day, I won't be stressing over the perfect outfit, restaurant or date. Instead, I'll be deciding if I should have another slice of pizza while my girlfriends try to figure out which cheesy rom-com we should watch next.

I don't hate Valentine's Day, I actually think it's really romantic. I think it's great that some people find happiness in grand gestures and extravagant presents. When I feel about someone strongly enough, I'm sure I'd do the same, but as of right now I don't. I don't want to be someone valentine or worry about finding the perfect gift. I want to focus on myself and just have a fun night with my girls. We worry so much about what everyone has to say about the things we do that often times we don't make any decisions for ourselves. Be a little selfish and do only what you want. Order too much food, break out the wine, and enjoy a stress-free night with the people that mean the most to you.

You will find me on the couch with my sorority sisters most likely catching up on "The Bachelor" or ruining our diets with dollar store sweets. And yes, I know there's an unofficial holiday already called, "Galentine's Day" (which I will be celebrating too) that's for ladies celebrating ladies. Who says you can't do it two nights in a row? Who says that Valentine's Day has to be a day spent with a romantic partner?

This is me telling you to take this day to have some fun and ignore the pressures society (and ourselves) put on ourselves constantly. Surround yourself with the people who support you; the ones who stick around through it all and love you unconditionally. If you still want to stay in the festive mood, you can exchange valentines with your friends and treat each other with chocolate hearts. And if you want to celebrate Valentine's Day with your significant other, go ahead, I'm not stopping you.

So, no matter what Valentine's Day for you is, celebrate it however you want. Dress up to the nines and have the night of your life. Stay in, order takeout, and fall asleep watching a movie. Hang out with your girlfriends, guy friends, or both! It doesn't matter how you do Valentine's Day, but rather who you spend it with.

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