This is definitely something I've been thinking about and stand by. There's nothing wrong with this silly social media idea that you can post about someone who isn't your significant other, and say they're you're "man crush." People post about men (and women) as their dream S.O., someone who embodies their idea of the perfect hair or body goals. I don't care who they are or what your reasoning is, I will never man crush a celebrity.
It's not that I don't have a list of people I consider attractive, or, in my fantasies, believe I could ever date a few them. I even have a list of just "Chris" celebrities that I am fond of, but I still won't post about them.
Now, some of them are so private with their own lives that I would just feel weird posting about it. I mean honestly, these guys (and girls) have better kept secrets than our government if TMZ or E! still doesn't know who they're dating.
The most important reason why I won't man crush Monday a celebrity is because I don't know them. One thing I learned (okay there were a few things) from dating an athlete is that the media can make or break you. On the good days, they love you and sing your praises. On bad, they want to eat you alive. It all depends on how you respond to the media, and how you handle yourself under pressure is key.
There can be times when on the baseball or football field, you just play dirty. They play dirty by throwing a pitch a little too inside on purpose or in football, tackling a little hard, but are the same guys who talk about everyone they have to thank in the post game interviews. Even if it was just college, the players know they have to shape their interviews. They have to say how studying is going, mention NO partying at all, monitor tweets and make sure it's positive/no cursing etc.
Not only will they tell you they're being monitored, but as a girlfriend, the public is watching you, too. "Did she really post that picture?" "Where are her clothes?" "A red solo cup... Is she partying?" "Is her boyfriend with her?" And plenty more questions and accusations are the kind of garbage you receive. My point is, no matter how many interviews I watch or what kind of stores I read about them, I have no clue who they are as a person.
It's their job to manage the media to the best of their ability and it's their job to be a good actor. I could be in love with actors X, Y, and Z and X has a secret drug problem, Y is a huge cheater and playboy, and Z has mental health issues. I mean, seriously, if everything is kept under wraps, who knows who they truly are. I can't man crush somebody I don't know.
I get that the idea is fun, but it's just not something for me. I'm not going to waste my time dreaming up who this man is when I honestly don't have a clue. I could maybe know his birthday or his favorite color or some other stupid answers because of an interview, but does that mean I know the person? I don't think so. I'm not going to sell myself short of happiness just because they're a "celebrity." Sorry, just not for me.
