Start small, be intentional, and keep it simple.
If I asked you if you put yourself first, would you be able to say yes? I sure couldn't. I feel guilty putting myself first, but why is that?
The source of my happiness comes from the investments in relationships I have with others. I feel happier when I help someone else. But what happens when you give so much that there's nothing left.
I make to-do lists, that's how I feel the most productive. But where am I on the list? I go, go, go until I have nothing left.
I'm filling up others cups, leaving mine empty and dry. I am the giver, I'm the friend my peers rely on for help, the motivator, the one who will come sit with you & eat ice cream after a rough day.
But, where do you draw the line? How can we serve others well if we don't recharge and refresh? Don't let your cup become empty.
Let me ask you...
~ What fills your cup? What makes you happy? What feeds your soul? ~
It is my responsibility to take time to fuel my soul, not anyone elses.
How do you feel when your cup becomes empty? Do you start making excuses as to why you can't take care of yourself? I do. I tell myself I don't have time for a face mask, that xyz needs me. I don't have time to meal prep for the week because x... asked for help on their homework.
What happens then? Do you become restless? Irritable? Worn out?
I promise your friends or family won't think you're selfish and won't be mad at you for taking time to care for yourself FIRST.
The more you do for yourself gives you that much more energy to help others. Simple.