Low Self Esteem Is Not Humility

Low Self Esteem Is Not Humility

What the Bible says about pride, humility, and confidence.

When we think of pride, we often picture someone with an inflated ego and self-confidence to spare. We all have those friends who love being the center of attention, are unapologetic when it comes to gossip, and have no reason to feel badly about themselves. People with these qualities are the ones we often label as “self-centered” or “prideful,” but what about those who view themselves as less than others and constantly tear down their self-worth? Ironically, one with this attitude can be considered just as prideful as the person who thinks they can do no wrong.

While I wouldn’t personally consider myself an obviously prideful individual, I too am guilty of having continuous negative thoughts about myself. Not only is it self-deprecating and repels company, it’s exhausting. But why is this considered pride? Can’t thinking less of one’s self be seen as a form of humility? In fact, the dictionary actually defines humility as “a modest or low view of one’s importance.” Well, yes, but if you really think about it, low self-esteem is part of self-centeredness and self-centeredness is a form of pride. “Let each of you not look not only to his interests, but also to the interests of others,” says Philippians 4. This verse is just one of the many responses from the Bible regarding self-centeredness. Even in speaking of ourselves negatively, we are putting our concerns before others, which is unbiblical.

“When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom,” Proverbs 11:2. Wouldn’t people who view themselves as lowly be considered people of humble character? Well, yes and no. Putting others before oneself is not an inward examination with outward action as an afterthought, but an experience in which an individual thinks of others first, with himself as an afterthought. To go even further, hating oneself is truly a twisted way to view humility, “For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the Church,” Ephesians 5:29.

So, how are we to find our place as Christians within the midst of this ever-difficult dichotomy we call pride and humility? It’s safe to say that it’s not easy, especially for a college student. For this is the time when expectations are at their highest while self-esteem is at its lowest. As I stated before, I am often the epitome of low self-esteem, and my perfectionist tendencies don’t do anything but accentuate the negative way I see myself. But again, this is not how God intended for me to look at myself, it’s not healthy. Confidence is not unbiblical. In fact, God wants us to be confident! It’s only when our pride gets in the way that good confidence is overshadowed.

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous! Do not tremble or be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go,” Joshua 1:9.

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When I Wander From My Earthly Home, I Find My Heavenly Home In You

Jesus, thank you for allowing me to love you.

When you move off to college or even just anywhere away from home it can be intimidating. My parents are one of the most important people in my life. I absolutely adore and admire them. It breaks my heart to be apart from them in distance. I am already an independent person so I never thought I really had to depend on them. My first two months away from them, I lived by myself.

During this time I realized that I was, in fact, dependent on my parents. They were the ones that when I came home, they could tell if I was having a bad day. They know me like the back of their hand and it’s hard for me to pretend everything is okay on my bad days without them calling me out. By yourself, you don't have that luxury. They were the ones that I could rant to or could seek for advice. You have to re-evaluate your free time when you are alone.

I knew being away from them, I would need to seek God more than normal. I believe you can always seek God more than what you currently do. This season in my life gave me a greater opportunity to do that. All of the downtime I normally would have talking to my parents at night quickly became my time with God.

Although I admire and appreciate my parents, they don't even compare to my God.

Moving away has granted me the blessing to seek God above everything. I never knew how much I depended on my parents until I moved away. In other words, I never knew how much I didn't depend on God for until I moved off. It is crazy that when you think your relationship with God is a 9/10, He then takes you to a 20/10. God will always amaze me.

Although I was away from my “earthly home,” I was never away from my Heavenly home. Home is wherever I am with Him. Keep this in mind when you move off or when Jesus leads you somewhere new and out of your comfort zone. Jesus is always there. I honestly believe everyone should (when the timing is right) move off on their own because that’s when you have to experience a new dependence on God. I am forever thankful for the move, my parents, and the One that makes everywhere feel like home.

So Jesus, thank you for allowing me to love you. Thank you for choosing me to be the one that gets to love you. Thank you for being my friend, father, savior, healer, deliverer, peacemaker, provider, and my absolute everything. Thank you for loving the real, raw me. I am so overwhelmed at your faithfulness and patience. You are my forever home.

When I fell into temptation, You embraced me with love. When my dad left, You were there. When I felt alone, Your overwhelming presence consumed me. When I wanted to walk out on my calling, You captured me with grace. When I failed a test, You reminded me of Your plans. When friends were no longer friends, You spoke life into me. When You called loved ones home, You gave me peace. When depression kicked in, You brought healing. When I was rejected for the sake of your name, You gave joy.

You were there.

You are here now.

Therefore, I know that You will always be.


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If Jesus Christ Had A Diary It Would Probably Look Like This

The archaeological find of the century.

Who wants to know an obscure fact about me? Too bad, you're going to hear one. In addition to being an esoteric, comedy writer, I am also an archaeologist on my free time (as with everything I write...don't question it). I only bring this up because I have just stumbled upon The Holy Grail of Christian artifacts!

Well, a figurative Holy Grail. Not the real Holy Grail.

I can see how that would be confusing. Anywho...I have found the teenage diary of Jesus Christ! Here is an excerpt from it:

February 3

Dear Diary,

I can't believe that Peter didn't invite me to his birthday party! Even worse, he lied to me about it. I went up to him and asked him about it and he told me he wasn't having a party. Three times! I just don't get it. I am great at parties. I turn water into wine. I'm a walking keg!

Mags tried to comfort me about the whole thing, offered to wash my feet. That seems to be her go-to for every problem. "Mags, my mom and I got in a fight." "Let me wash your feet." It's kinda weird. I ditched her to hang out with Judas.

Judas is just a really cool guy. He gets me. I know that I could pretty much tell him anything and he wouldn't sell me out. He's just that kind of guy.

Anyways, it's getting sort of late, and I get cross in the mornings if I don't get enough sleep.



December 25

Dear Diary,

Well, it's my birthday. Yay me, I guess. I turned 16, which is pretty cool. I got a permit to ride a camel. You know, it's kind of weird that the year keeps counting up to the exact age I am. Like, why'd they choose the year I was born to be the Year Zero? Odd stuff.

Anyways, my stepdad got me the worst birthday present. It was just a saw. He wants me to be a carpenter just like him. That's fine, I guess. I don't know though. I've always wanted to go into a business where I can make a profit...

Hey, that gives me a crazy idea.

Peace out,


January 15

Dear Diary,

My principal sucks. Mr. Pilate got mad and threw me out of school for "Derailing the conversation." Told me that I was lucky he wasn't giving me 40 lashes. All I did was get up and start preaching. Is that so bad? This town sucks. I'm gonna hit the road, I think.

Anyways, I'm thinking about growing a beard. I don't know, it might look a little silly. I'll keep it under consideration.

Catch you on the flip side,


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