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Part Five: And then I Realized

Loveless In College-attle
daya e dodson

Week 5 has been absolutely great. It's been a minute but a well worth it minute. To pick up where I left off, Week 4 ended with me initiating contact with Bubbalicious Boy and everything has been great since then.

Every week you know I come with the goals and lessons I've learned. The three important points of this week are:

Communication and Persistence and Patience

Let's start with communication...

I thought about all the crushes or interactions with guys I've had in the past and what they all had in common for the reason why they failed. Communication was the failure of each one ( not like there had been many but you get the point). I realized that each one of those individuals I had only been interested in because of their appearance as opposed to their personalities. And I'm sure everyone can relate.

It was like appearance first personality later. That is a big no no. Now I had to be honest with myself, I had always truly liked individuals because of their personality. Their appearance was like the cherry on top. Because I was so fascinated in what they looked like I ignored their God awful personalities. If I paid attention to how they really were then I could have realized it would have never worked out because the communication was off.

With that being said Lesson 1:

If the communication lacks so will the relationship

And when I say relationship I don't mean you have to be specifically dating or anything. A relationship can just be a friendship, situationship, or whatever you and the other party want to call it. If you two don't have some solid ground or common interest the communication will lack and you'll just be sitting there wondering what the hell you saw in the person in the first place.

So what was different about Bubbalicious Boy?

It was the reasoning for why I liked him in the first place. When he opened his mouth and spoke that's where I became intrigued. What he looked like was a after thought. When he spoke, he spoke with such intellect. Everyone else in the past never caught my attention like this time. Intelligence has always been a man attraction factor to me. With this one, when he speaks I actually want to listen.

Now the next thing that makes Bubbablicious Boy different and also this weeks point was Persistence.

I expected for the conversation to never continue with this one just like all the other individuals from the past. I guess you can call it a little Post-Relationship PTSD.

With B Boy the conversation goes on and on and on even as we speak. I've never in all these years had a individual to keep persistence until now. We talk day and night non-stop. The conversations are about any and everything and because of this persistence I've found we had so much in common. So here comes Lesson 2:

Sometimes if relationships don't work out it may be because the persistence wasn't enough to where you two could figure out if you had anything in common

With that being said persistence is a two person job. One person can't be putting forth the effort and the other just wait to be chased and vice versa. It's a partnership. In order to find out if something can go somewhere you have to be persistent. And I don't mean persistent to the point where you're being annoying. I mean to the point where you can figure out and determine if you and said individual have a common ground. And with persistence comes the next and final point of the week:

With good things comes patience

I realized another reason as to why my past encounters didn't work out either. I was not patient. I was not patient enough to try and see what the said individual was about. I was just so gung-ho to feel like I had someone to talk to that I ignored a lot of red flags.

Good things come with time. If something is truly meant to be in your path it will come with time. What makes this one different is that with B Boy, I am 100% willing to be patient to understand his whole individual self. So if that means I only get to talk to him a couple hours a day, that is better than none at all. Each day I uncover another layer of his personality and it's beautiful. I have never been so in awe of an individual. The highlight I find in each conversation we have everyday is learning another or a couple facts about him everyday. And as well he does the same about me.

It's so beautiful.

I am so okay with not getting to seem him for days because it makes the time we do see each other even more special. I am finally accepting of the bigger picture. And being patient is understanding and coming to accept the bigger picture in the future instead of focusing of filling your needs now.

On that Note until Week 6...

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