If you are anything like me, you may have been dealt a bad hand of cards at one point in your life. Up until recently, I have always considered myself damaged because of the wounds that time wasn’t healing properly. As I was thinking about it more, I realized that maybe some wounds are not meant to be healed. I am going to be very cliché and remind you of a saying that I’m sure you’ve heard before; everything that happens to you happens for a reason.

With that being said, I'm going to give you a few scenarios of wounds I have personally dealt with, and you may or may not be going through the same things.

1. Did you lose someone or something important, and you still feel your heart aching? I can’t promise you that this pain will go away but I can promise you that it has made you a lot stronger. Loss does something to your soul that nothing else can, but how you deal with it is up to you.

2. Have you made a huge mistake? Mistakes teach you so much about yourself. Without them, you wouldn’t know who you are or who you want to be. Time can’t take that mistake away, but time will help you to realize that maybe…just maybe it taught you something important and then it isn’t a mistake at all, it’s a lesson.

3. You fell for the wrong person? How would you know they were wrong if you didn’t try? We fall so fast and so hard sometimes that we forget to look and see if someone is waiting there to catch us. This will happen over and over again (unless you’re one of the lucky ones), but in the end it’s all about experience.

Everything that has happened to you has made you who you are. All of the pain has made you stronger and all of your wounds have made you unique. Everyone’s wounds are different, and everyone’s heartbreak is measured on an inconsistent scale. Instead of using them to define you, use them to help build you up.