Love yourself first, know that you’re okay before you hurt someone else.
As we go through life, we tell ourselves that we need someone, that as we take on each day we have to find our person to love, to cherish, to take on the world with and to eventually have our happily ever after.
We sit and we dream of our wedding day, our house, and we dream of a future. We think about what our kids will look like, we question if they will be athletic or not and we start praying now that when that day comes they are just healthy and happy because in the end that’s all that really matters. As we dream and question all of this, we often forget that life throws things at us we can not control, remember it is God's timing.
You go each day and you hear your friends talk about how happy they are and how they may have found the one and you ask yourself when that day may come. You get a message that could possibly change your life and you aren’t ready because you know that there is too much going on in your world to let someone else in at the time. That is okay.
You have to love yourself. Not everyone knows your past, not everyone can understand it. Many could have encountered worse, several will tell you that you are crazy and say “what’s one date going to hurt?” That one date can hurt the person you go with because you know you are not emotionally ready to let someone in. That is okay.
You have to love yourself for you. It is not being selfish, it’s not being rude. It’s actually a good thing. It shows that you are trying. It shows that you know what you are doing and you are trying so hard to get where you want to be in life. It shows that you’re focused on your future and you’re trying to achieve all your goals.
Do it. Push yourself to achieve more than you could ever dream of and when someone comes into your life and wants to be a part of it, you think of them too. You ask yourself if you will help them or hurt them. You need to help that other person to achieve their goals and be ready to be there.
Everything has to work with God's time, it doesn’t mean you won’t get lonely, it doesn’t mean you won’t want someone on some days and it doesn't mean that you won’t want to crawl into your bed and just lay there because you feel worthless because you feel like you aren’t good enough to have someone. You are good enough. You are not worthless and it is okay to tell yourself that you are not ready.
Love yourself, work on yourself, and when you are ready and in God's time you will get your happily ever after.
