Why are love and relationships so hard to find nowadays? It seems like there are these lost ideas that have been abandoned throughout the years.
These upcoming generations have adapted to this "talking" stage and have come to think that, that is good enough. Like what even is this "talking stage"? Kind of seeing each other, but technically not? What are the rules for this stage? Are you faithful to each other, or can you see other people? Sitting here trying to explain this stage just validates the ridiculousness even more.
What happened to the good old fashion dating, where a nice boy would ask out a pretty girl? They would go get dinner, maybe a movie and maybe just maybe sneak a kiss at the end of the night. Now we are stuck with matches on Tinder leading to Snapchat name exchanges in hopes of maybe starting to "talk" to each other.
Where is the love? The passion? Where are the endless butterflies and the romance? Have people of our generation stopped trying? Why is falling in love so hard now? I know the movies are so over played out that they seem almost too unrealistic but why can't romance happen at this day and age? I am sick of the pointless flings, unrealistic expectations and constantly putting yourself out there just to get crushed in the end.
I want real. I want silliness and laughter. The kind of relationship people comment with #goals. I want to feel comfortable with someone, be able to fully open up. I want commitment and effort. I know this sounds like a rant by now, but I know other people feel the same. People need to realize that sometimes you need a little bit more than just "friends with benefits". Sure, hookups are fun once in a drunken while but they get old. Fast.
Feelings suck, I know. But when they first start out they are great. You have butterflies and are happy 24/7. You can't wait to see them and want to see them all the time. You start to fall in love with their company and start to think nothing in the world can go wrong until you realize that you are in a one-sided relationship and you are the only one in this thing with the feelings. Then you get stuck, not sure whether to bail or try harder. Thinking this whole thing was perfect, but in all reality, he has your heart but refuses to accept it or want it. This is why falling in love is so hard, we constantly fall for the wrong person at the wrong time.
Regardless people, both guys and girls, need to start trying in relationships. Participation is key ladies and gents! It takes two to tango people, so start putting in some effort. One person can't be the only one putting in the work, both parties have to want it. Happiness is the goal, right? So why not try your best to be happy, no matter who you are with?
Let's stop throwing ourselves at the people who only want hookups and don't want relationships. Let's stop making ourselves vulnerable to the wrong people. I am standing up for my right to be happy in a relationship, and I will find love. And so will all of you singles out there! There is someone for everyone right? Have hope. I know love really sucks sometimes, but once you feel it once you never want anything else. Never stop fighting for your happiness people and let's bring love back into relationships.
