[Your] Love don’t live here anymore!
Do you know the type of person who loves you when it suits him or her? You know the kind of love that comes around when your mate might need something from you? Or the kind of love he or she has for you when they're busted for spending time with someone else? Well, that type of “love” is the kind that will wear you down, kill your self-esteem and have you acting out of character, all in the name of someone else’s definition of love and happiness.
Dictionary.com tells us that happiness is a noun that reflects, good pleasure, contentment and joy. I have searched high and low, and I found nothing about happiness that reflects pain from mental and/or physical abuse; nor does happiness represent insecurity, lies, cheating and unkindness.
This all brings me to a very important point—It is nice to share your life with someone you love. And most people want companionship, but if the person you give your heart to stomps on it and tears it in two just because she or he can, then you’re probably better off alone.
I heard it said that you can love someone with all of your heart but that does not necessarily mean you should be with that person. Who you love is an emotion that you may have no control over, but your reaction to that emotion determines whether you are in a healthy relationship or a poisonous relationship.
Here are some signs that you are in a poisonous relationship:
You cry more than you laugh.
Your mate has you questioning if you are beautiful or handsome.
You spend more time feeling disgusted by his or her actions than you do remembering the good times.
You lie to others that everything is fine in your relationship when in fact nothing about the relationship is good. (Message: let it go, because somewhere there is a righteous love just for you.)
You spend your time fantasizing what your life would be like if you were with someone else.
You continually make up excuses for your mate’s unruly, disrespectful behavior.
This list could go on and on, but I think we all get the picture. Love is a word used way too liberally today. These are just my thoughts, however, when you tell a person you love them, it should be for the following reasons:
Because the person makes you smile and laugh.
The things you do for that person are the same things that he or she would do for you without hesitation and/or without you having to ask.
That person knows your flaws and loves beyond them.
When you think of that person, you feel happy and excited to be around them.
Simply put, that person has your back as much as you have theirs.
Love can be simple, but it is when we all dilute the word and make it more of a catchy phrase and not feelings proven by actions that love is just not good or simple
When determining if your love interest is worthy of you, think about the true meanings of love—the simplicity of honest love. You should be thinking about kindness, happiness, laughter, compromise and honesty. If the way he or she treats you does not fit into those series of words, then it is time to tell him or her that I got love for you … but your kind of love—well, that kind of love does not live here anymore.
