Learning of the news that Tristan Thompson (better known as Khloe Kardashian’s baby daddy) had been caught red-handed with a handful of unsavory female companions was devastating to say the least. I had various group chats popping off about this scandal, exploding with the phrases love is a lie!!!!!! boys suck!!!!!! blah blah blah *Insert any ignorant generalization about love and relationships that you can think of HERE*
My brain was on overload. Like obviously a HUGE Khloe fan (by far the favorite Kardashian) however, this amount of uproar from a dining room full of sorority girls seemed a bit extreme, and THAT’S saying something. But THEN the wheels in my mind began to turn. I began pondering upon the explosion of emotion I was receiving from my surroundings about a relationship so distantly from these people…
And then it hit me — this wasn’t about Khloe’s whole world turning upside down, this was about each woman in this room’s very own heartbreak.
From my perspective, this generation of us young adults — AKA Millennials — is nearly experiencing the demise of monogamy. Why, you may ask? Because love is dead? NO. That could not be further from the truth. Without love, all we would see in this world would be war and famine and all the horrible things that exist, but on a much larger scale.
Monogamy seems to be hanging on by a thread because of the incessant need of affirmation from others that Millennials need. What I mean by this is that members of our so-called 'generation X' are constantly seeking the approval of others, or at least some form of attention rather than finding this sense of contentment There are so many modes of which to experience rejection nowadays — Twitter, Facebook, Grindr, Tinder, Bumble, you name it, there are endless ways to diss people and spread all around bad vibes. However, there are very few good ways to express love and adoration, because that would be "lame."
Our generation is so fixated and enveloped in the hookup culture that having feelings for just about anything that lives and breathes is seemingly unheard of. And those who are in relationships, usually unhappy ones at that, want love so bad that they’ll settle for nearly anyone who will love them back. People nowadays determine their worth on the success of their romantic relationships rather than the way they introspectively view themselves. And that’s the problem. Most of us aren’t even whole people when we enter these said relationships, which forces one to lose themselves even further when that relationship is a failure to launch.
My advice to you: love yourself before you find yourself trying to love someone else (romantically that is). Love your friends, love your family, love your pets, love what you do, but most of all love YOU. Because you, my dear, are the most you-thing out there. There will never be another you, and someday you will meet someone that you will love almost as much as you love you, and you will want to bring even more of the both of you into this world, in turn making this world a better place. And just like don’t cheat, simple as that. It has so many negative repercussions that affect people long-term.
Love is not dead, it is in fact very much alive, and it will find you if you trust that it will. And I can assure you, Khloe will be fine. She is one bad b****.
