It Is Okay To Be Lost In College Because You're Not Alone

It Is Okay To Be Lost In College Because You're Not Alone

After all, aren't we all a little lost?

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In college, it is common for people to think that you have a definite plan. That is the point of college, after all. However, it is okay to be in college and to be lost. Not everyone completely finds themselves in high school.

There simply isn't a set time for when people know exactly which path to be on. Things change every second of every day, so plans are constantly changing. Being lost happens countless times in a lifetime. If you feel as though you have to have it all together, then don't.

There may be a time where you want to change your major or even just drop out of college totally. You're not alone. The best thing to do is to take a deep breath and find someone to help guide you. College is an overwhelming time. The pressure to be the best and to be the quickest one to graduate can get to anyone. But it's no contest, it is completely okay to be lost and to doubt your plan.

If you already set a concrete plan for yourself, it doesn't mean it's the one you have to abide by. Take a bit of time to catch your breath. You could even embrace the fact that you're lost and use that time for clearing your head.

Just remember that plans can change. If you don't have one at the very moment, then make another one that is best for yourself. Don't rush into anything. Find who you are and what you are meant to do. Find another trail in your life if the one you were currently on disappeared.

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Trust me—If He’s Really The Guy You’re Meant To Be With, He Won’t Be The Guy To Make You Cry

If he's the right guy for you, he will never try to put you in that position to have to feel sadness, resentment or fear.

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For anyone who might know me, you know pretty damn well that I'm a crier.

Yeah, I cry a lot. And I'm not ashamed to admit it.

I cry in the library any given day, constantly overwhelmed with the anxiety of trying to simultaneously write papers, study for exams and somehow pass my classes in order to get this degree.

I cry whenever someone gives me anything along the lines of a confrontation or an attitude.

I cry whenever I see one of those animal shelter commercials on TV with that tear-inducing song blaring in the background.

Simply put—I cry whenever something goes wrong.

And relationships are no different.

It's a bit embarrassing how many boys I've actually cried over the past couple of years but hey—at least I understand now that they weren't worth my time. I actually learned a lot from the tears I shed and if anything, they strengthened me and helped me realize the value of my independence as a single girl who doesn't define happiness anymore as having a man in her life.

But looking back to these boys who I DID cry about in the past, I can infer that they all shared a common denominator of being some complete heartless jerk and that each of them had also made me cry at some point in the relationship.

This realization irked me to the point of asking this particular question:

If the guy you're with is making you cry, then why the hell are you still dating him?

Seriously, forget any thoughts about him becoming your "soulmate" or him "always being there for you no matter what." If he's the one who's making you cry for one reason or another, then honey—he's obviously doing something wrong.

And to set things clear here, when you cry about something, you're not being overly emotional or sensitive. You're not being selfish (as he might put it) but instead—you're expressing your true, heartfelt emotions to him which shouldn't be something you have to apologize about.

If he's the right guy for you, he will never try to put you in that position to have to feel sadness, resentment or fear. And he definitely won't be sitting there next to you either one, trying to figure out what the heck he just did or two, telling you to stop crying like a little bitch. Because if he truly cared about you and your feelings, he will cherish you and would only want to make you feel happy and wanted.

There's a lot of reasons why we might cry over a boy.

To get a tad bit more personal here: I cried over a lot of boys because I never truly felt like they loved me the way I loved them. I mean, they would be telling me all these poetic things about how beautiful I was, how they could see a life together and how much they L-O-V-E-D me, but truthfully, I always thought that my devotion to them was stronger than their simple words/phrases.

I also cried a lot because they made me feel insecure and I was afraid that they would want to dump me for some other girl out there. Boys always have options, you know, and all it takes is one pretty girl to catch his eye for him to sashay out of the relationship to get with her.

And whenever I cried about this reason or that, most of the boys I were with simply shrugged it off as me being a crybaby, me being overly analytical about his wrongdoing or my favorite: because it was the "time of the month." Oh, please.

While different boys have a different way of handling this situation, he's still a rational human being with the ability to THINK and understand certain emotions! And if he really loved you like he said he did, he really won't be there trying to make a joke out of why you're crying. So if he's making the situation worse, or you feel as if he really doesn't seem to care about you, then it might be time for you to wave adíos at him.

The next time you find yourself crying excessively about the guy you're with, it might be time to re-assess your relationship with him. Don't think of it as you being delusional or just overly crazy about him.

Because if he's really the guy you're meant to be with, he won't ever make you cry.

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Skipping Class In College Is Different Than Skipping Class In High School

I literally can't afford to miss class.

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Starting college right out of high school is exhilarating. Especially if you move away from home. You feel free. You can do whatever you want. And even better, you choose your classes.

The real pain is actually going to class. I don't understand how I was able to wake up at 6am, be at school at 7:30 to 3:30 and go to drama club or sometimes work from 4-10 and STILL go home and do homework for 3 hours. After one semester in college, I can't even go to 3 1-hour classes without feeling exhausted.

There are times when you wake up, contemplating your whole existence. You ask yourself, "Do I REALLY want to graduate?" or maybe you even be like, "Dropping out sounds so good right now." And this is especially if you choose morning classes.

No one is there to force you to go to class.

You have to decide if it is worth it.

Some classes do take attendance, and you end up using all your skips anyways. But going to class really is a challenge. I, personally, feel more inclined to do something if my mom is making me do it.

However, here, no one is here to remind me. I then remember that I am paying for this and so I have to go. I think to myself that I don't want to be a disappointment so I force myself to go.

Missing one day, however, will kill you. Lessons move so fast, that you could blink and miss something that will be on your final.

In high school, you skip class, and first they call your parents. Sucks, right? But you can go back to the class the next day and still be learning what you were learning a week ago. You miss one day and people notice. Your teacher notices, your classmates notice. Your friends definitely notice. You have multiple classes a day where you see multiple people for multiple hours.

And more often than not, your teacher will always let you do make-up work.

I want the college experience to be exactly as it is now, BUT with more skip days. My mental tiredness is important too!

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