Let's get this out of the way right out of the gate, this article is not about me losing/not losing my virginity or my own sexual experience. I know I share a lot on the internet, but this is not going to be one of those times. This article is more about virginity, the lack thereof, and maybe why it actually isn't as big of a deal as you might think.
Virginity is actually a little bit of a gray area. There are several ways that someone can lose their virginity that doesn't involve a penis entering a vagina. There are different kinds of virginity. Hell, there are even people that reclaim their virginity for whatever reason. However, you lose your virginity, there are several things that can happen and it doesn't have to be a big deal or be like you've seen in the movies.
For a lot of people, they want to stay a virgin until their wedding night. There are a lot of people that want to be virgins until they have the absolute perfect scene set up like something out of a Nicholas Sparks novel. They want candles, rose petals, the perfect person, the perfect night.
All of the stars have to be aligned and there must be the most romantic of songs playing in the background. Sometimes, that does actually happen. People get all of the bells and whistles and it is perfect for them. They fall even deeper in love with the person they did it with and they live happily ever after.
In some cases, people cry after losing their virginity because it was a huge step for them. Sometimes it is a romantic moment where two people who are madly in love decide to share the most intimate and sacred parts of themselves for the sake of becoming one.
But you know what, sometimes, losing your virginity isn't all it's cracked up to be and it doesn't have all of the bells and whistles. Sometimes two people just want to get the virgin thing over with. Sometimes two people decide that having sex in the back seat of a Honda is just as romantic as candles and rose petals. Sometimes it actually was pretty uneventful.
It doesn't have to be like something out of a Nicholas Sparks novel. Hell, it doesn't even have to be romantic. Sometimes it's more about getting closer to each other than it was about being perfect. Sometimes the loss of virginity isn't about your genitals coming into contact with another set of genitals.
It could be a whole range of things, depending on how you define it. No matter how it goes there's nothing wrong with how anyone decides to do it.
It doesn't have to be a life-changing, earth-shattering event. Actually, you don't even have to want to do it again or if you do, you don't have to do it with the same person again. Do you, and embrace the fact that it doesn't need to be a huge event if you don't want it to be. There should be no shame in your sex game.