Losing A Pet Is Just As Painful As Losing A Family Member

Losing A Pet Is Just As Painful As Losing A Family Member

The grieving will never end.


Anyone who has had a pet has also had to experience the heart-wrenching sadness that comes with losing that pet.

When I was just a little girl, my family took in a stray cat, and we named him Buddy. He never scratched or hissed, and he loved us unconditionally. Buddy was an outdoor cat, and one day he never came home.

As a child, I didn't quite understand what happened to Buddy, but I just knew that I missed him. I still miss him to this day.

A few years later, my mom took me and my sister to get our own gerbils. I named mine Princess, and I loved putting her in a hamster ball and watching her run around. Years later Princess passed away in her sleep on Easter. My mom told me and asked if I was sad. I said "no" before I started crying.

In high school, and then again in college, I came home to pet my childhood dogs for the last time before my parents took them to get put down.

They each provided me with about 16 years of love on my saddest and happiest days. We knew we had to help them pass when they couldn't walk outside to go to the bathroom anymore.

A few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I made the decision to adopt a cat after months of consideration. Of course, we went to the shelter and immediately fell in love with a beautiful gray and white boy who did nothing but purr and rub against everyone. The volunteer informed us that he was FIV+, which basically meant he had a weak immune system. She assured us that as long as we kept him inside, he should live a long and happy life.

We knew we would do anything for such a sweet, loving cat, so we adopted him and named him Leon on the drive home. Almost a week after taking him home, Leon suddenly wouldn't move, and he refused to eat or drink.

We rushed him to the vet where they gave him fluids to re-hydrate him and a steroid to reduce his fever. He was also prescribed medicine that was supposed to make him feel better.

Two days later, we rushed him back to the vet with the same symptoms he had just exhibited days before. He was given more fluids, more steroids, and more prescribed medicine that was also supposed to make him feel better. At this point, Leon had refused to drink water with us for four days, and he would only eat his dry food.

We searched and searched for ways we could help Leon. We Googled constantly, we asked friends, we called vets, but Leon refused any liquids we put in front of him. After days of crying and begging Leon to please drink anything, we ended up having to make one of the hardest decisions we've ever made.

The shelter had great veterinarians that could constantly monitor his health and give him all the fluids he needed to kick his respiratory infection. We could not risk keeping him and having his temperature spike once again especially since I had school and my boyfriend had work. We brought Leon back to the shelter.

I cannot describe the physical pain of having to willfully give up a pet that you have already fallen madly in love with, but I would never wish that feeling on any other person on this planet. We had Leon for 10 days, and he was a part of our family.

All that our animals want is to make us happy. Their hearts are fully pure, and the love they provide us is immense and indescribable. The loss of a pet, however that loss may come, is truly one of the greatest losses we can ever experience.

Please, hold your pets a little tighter tonight. Give them an extra treat and an extra head scratch, and make sure to tell them how much you love them because once they're gone, the grieving will never end.

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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.


When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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To Whoever Adopts The Dog I Had To Give Up

To whom it may concern...


I begged and begged to get that beautiful dog. The moment I laid my eyes on her I gasped from how cute and beautiful she was. She was so sweet to my parents and I that we took her home with us that same day. I truly fell in love with her instantly. She slept right in my bed with me that first night and I could tell I was getting attached very quickly. That is what makes this hurt the most.

Stevie, or whatever your name may be in the future, just know that I loved every single second spent with you. I know our time together was so short, but that small amount of time made a wonderful impact on me. Those big beautiful brown eyes warmed by heart so much. Even though you woke me up early to go to the bathroom, I didn't care. That just meant more time we could spend together. I am sorry that I was not able to provide you the life you deserved. It's not your fault that you're the way you are in certain situations. You are a perfect dog and I want you to know that and I want you to know that you will always have a special place in my heart.

The lucky person who gets to have that beautiful girl in their life, whoever you are I am so happy you're doing what you're doing. We had done everything we could manage, but our community was just not right for her. I hope wherever you are you have amazing neighbors like we did that are supportive of everything that happens. If you don't, that's okay because that means Stevie ended up at an even better place. Somewhere she can run around at without a leash and doesn't have other dogs interfering with her territory. I was devastated to let her go. I didn't want to, but it was becoming the only option. I cried a lot, but Stevie doesn't deserve to be in stressful situations like she was when I had her.

I just want to thank you for taking her in. Thank you for caring for her and hopefully giving her the amazing life that she deserves. She is a spunky little girl, but she is as sweet as can be. Tell her that I love her and miss her.

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