To The Girl I Used To Be

To The Girl I Used To Be

Look at you now, look how far you've come.

Have you ever looked back on your life and realized how much you have changed throughout the years? With new opportunities and blossoming friendships around every turn, it's amazing to see how far you've come, yet exciting to think about how far you have to go.

Recently, I had written an article that caused a tremendous amount of controversy which brought with it hatred and spiteful comments from people across the world, but also an immense amount of love and support from family members and friends who were concerned for my well-being. Because of this, I was able to look back on my life and realize how far I truly have come throughout the years.

Looking back on my life, I reminisced on the shy, quiet freshman who had stepped through the doors of her high school for the very first time. I had come from a small private school and yearned to be accepted and "fit in" with the socialites of the school. As the days, months, and years went on, I had grown to find my place within the walls of the high school. I had found my close friend group and did what was expected of me. I had let other people's thoughts and perceptions of my character run my life. I had definitely "fit in", but I wasn't always true to myself and what I believed. However, I didn't really realize that until now looking back at the girl I used to be.

Once college rolled around, I wasn't sure where I "fit in". College is an amazing place full of wonderful opportunities where people finally learn to be who they are and accept themselves. I discovered my passions, developed amazing friendships, and continuously became more confident in myself. I have joined organizations that I love including Alternative Breaks and Phi Sigma Sigma where I have learned countless lessons in leadership, service, and the advancement of womanhood. But more importantly, I have found my voice. The Odyssey has provided me with so much confidence in myself and passion for what I do and I could not be more proud of the work I have put forth as a writer.

After my article went viral and hateful words were stated about my character, I realized how strong I was. My family and friends kept routinely checking in on me to make sure I was okay, but they didn't need too. I have never felt more empowered in my life than I have at this very moment. I feel as if I could move mountains with my words and I'm so proud of the woman I have become: strong, confident, independent, passionate, motivated, bold, hard working, and most importantly, my own person. I can guarantee you, if you truly know me, you haven't met a soul like me, and that in itself is pretty special.

As a college sophomore finishing up in her second semester, I am beyond proud to look back and realize how far I have come and I'm so excited to see where these paths I'm paving will lead me to next. I have always said I wanted to make an impact on this world, but never in my wildest dreams, did I imagine it to be this big.

As for you, I encourage each and every one of you to dig deep and find your voice. It's such an amazing and empowering feeling, I can promise you that.

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To The Friends I Won't Talk To After High School

I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.


So, for the last four years I’ve seen you almost everyday. I’ve learned about your annoying little brother, your dogs and your crazy weekend stories. I’ve seen you rock the awful freshman year fashion, date, attend homecoming, study for AP tests, and get accepted into college.

Thank you for asking me about my day, filling me in on your boy drama and giving me the World History homework. Thank you for complimenting my outfits, laughing at me presenting in class and listening to me complain about my parents. Thank you for sending me your Quizlets and being excited for my accomplishments- every single one of them. I appreciate it all because I know that soon I won’t really see you again. And that makes me sad. I’ll no longer see your face every Monday morning, wave hello to you in the hallways or eat lunch with you ever again. We won't live in the same city and sooner or later you might even forget my name.

We didn’t hang out after school but none the less you impacted me in a huge way. You supported my passions, stood up for me and made me laugh. You gave me advice on life the way you saw it and you didn’t have to but you did. I think maybe in just the smallest way, you influenced me. You made me believe that there’s lots of good people in this world that are nice just because they can be. You were real with me and that's all I can really ask for. We were never in the same friend group or got together on the weekends but you were still a good friend to me. You saw me grow up before your eyes and watched me walk into class late with Starbucks every day. I think people like you don’t get enough credit because I might not talk to you after high school but you are still so important to me. So thanks.

With that said, I truly hope that our paths cross one day in the future. You can tell me about how your brothers doing or how you regret the college you picked. Or maybe one day I’ll see you in the grocery store with a ring on your finger and I’ll be so happy you finally got what you deserved so many guys ago.

And if we ever do cross paths, I sincerely hope you became everything you wanted to be. I hope you traveled to Italy, got your dream job and found the love of your life. I hope you have beautiful children and a fluffy dog named Charlie. I hope you found success in love before wealth and I hope you depended on yourself for happiness before anything else. I hope you visited your mom in college and I hope you hugged your little sister every chance you got. She’s in high school now and you always tell her how that was the time of your life. I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.

And hey, maybe I’ll see you at the reunion and maybe just maybe you’ll remember my face. If so, I’d like to catch up, coffee?



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20 Things I'd Do If The Concept Of Time Was Abolished

If only our lives weren't limited by time.


Recently, news outlets have been reporting on how the people of Sommarøy, a Norwegian island located north of the arctic circle, would like to remove the concept of time. This is largely in part due to the fact that the sun does not set during much of the summer nor does it rise during the winter. The inhabitants of Sommarøy do not have rigidly separated days and nights like the rest of the world and can be found doing normal daytime activities at 2 am in the summers.

They also would like to take clocks out of their society. Although this lifestyle might seem impractical to the rest of us, I couldn't help but wonder what it would be like to live in a world where time is irrelevant, in regards to the concept AND the physical effects of its passing. This newfound information gave rise to ideas of things (some simple, some whimsical) I'd do if the concept of time did not exist and we had as much time to do the things we wanted.

1. Live on a ship at sea.

2. Watch a flower grow from a seed to its death.

3. Apply as much makeup as desired without being late.

4. Retake my favorite college courses and participate as fully as I possibly can, including the completion of every single reading and film.

5. Take a non-stop trip through every country in the world.

6. Learn to play and fully master every single musical instrument in existence.

7. Watch a full rotation of Earth around the sun from space.

8. Live by myself in a cabin at the edge of the woods a la Thoreau.

9. Reread every single book that shaped my childhood.

10. Have a brief conversation with every old friend.

11. Re-drink that first sip of the perfect cup of coffee.

12. Observe how the tides change with the lunar cycle.

13. Learn as many languages as possible.

14. Sit at the beach and listen to music for days.

15. Train for an Olympic event.

16. Write a detailed, thorough analysis of every track in my favorite movie soundtracks.

17. Take a photo of every interesting place I visit and every little nook I find peace in and make a physical photo album.

18. Cook food without burning it.

19. Watch a star's life cycle from birth to death.

20. Replay the feeling of coming home.


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