The Truth About Long Distance Friendships

The Truth About Long Distance Friendships

I appreciate the times and memories we shared at a young age because as we now get older, everything changes.
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Having long distance friendships is bittersweet. Getting older, you shortly become busier and busier with life. When you’re a young adult maintaining school, a job, homework, etc., it’s hard to see your friends that you have been friends with forever, especially if they go to school far away.

I met my best friend in 8th grade, we clicked right away. I knew from the start that this friendship would last forever. It wasn’t always perfect, we have gotten in our fair share of fights just like everyone has, but we still always find a way to figure it out because we are best friends. We have had countless sleepovers, secret telling, putting on makeup, and we would always find something to do, it was never a dull time with her. Having her as a friend means everything to me. Having someone you can rely on and count on to always be there for you during the hard times and the good times, is pretty great. She always gives me her honest opinion on everything even if I don’t want to hear it. Friendships are something I take in value of, and I would never want to take that for granted. I appreciate the times and memories we shared at a young age because as we now get older, everything changes.

We use to talk to each other or see each other everyday because we would either be in school or be living 5 minutes away from each other. We would always be at one house or the other. Her mom felt like my second mom and we know everything about each other. I decided to stay close to home for school to save money and because I felt as if I wasn’t prepared to be in a larger school, my best friend on the other hand wanted to go to school three hours away. I had a sense of jealousy because I wouldn’t get to be with her as much anymore and other people would. I want her to do what makes her happy and I will always support my best friend with anything, so if that made her happy, I wanted her to do it. We now don’t talk as much, get to see each other as much, she’s no longer 5 minutes away, and I wish I could say it was easy. I know she is always a phone call or FaceTime away. But it’s now always exciting to hear when she is coming home because when we do get together, it’s like nothing has changed.

I look forward to sitting in the car listening to Taylor Swift with our Taco Bell in front of us, talking for hours, even if it’s not every other day anymore. I look forward to it each time I hear she’s coming home. The simplest things I now cherish and I know I will have these memories forever.

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All I've Ever Known Is Long Distance Relationships

Saying goodbye never gets easier. Period.
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At this point, I've given too many 'squeeze tight' hugs to know that they don't prevent the heartache or the absence of a loved one who lives far away; even though I always expect them to. Its never mattered how many extra seconds I held on for. I just knew it was comforting in the moment. Truthfully, long distance relationships thoroughly suck, but I've learned a lot through them.

As long as I can remember, my dad has driven a semi truck throughout the week and is only home on the weekends. When I was little and only tall enough to hug him around his leg, I'd squeeze him as tightly as possible, he would kiss me on the forehead, and tell me how much he loved his little girl. tears... I know. Usually, after he'd hardly get out of the door, I'd run after him for one more hug... It couldn't EVER just be one hug and I still can't tell you why.

Even though there may be some daddy/daughter time that was missed, he's still been there for everything he possibly could have and more.

And even to this day, I say "Dad's home" and my dogs bolt to the door no joke. ((probably because he brings them McDonald's..spoiled)) Bottom line, after twenty years I've realized a few thing things.

a.) It doesn't get easier to say goodbye and wish him a good week.

b.) I still don't call him enough.

Sending extra surprises for him through out the week helped me too. I would slip homemade cookies with a note in his bag so he could find them at some point during the week. I always wanted him to know he's always thought about and that I'll never be able to thank him enough for the time he has sacrificed to support us. I literally won't ever be able to accomplish that but I think cookies help..

My grandparents live forever and a day away (really, only eight hours... but as a kid in a car, it felt like forever). After twenty years of minimal grandparent quality time, I'm still confused as to why our generation doesn't have 'grandma matching' websites?? Spending time with her in the kitchen, cookin' up her famous dessert like every grandma has, is irreplaceable. Living without embarrassing stories of my parents has been a killer too. My grandparents have always live out of state and spending any kind of quality time with them had to be lived within seventy-two hours, three times a year. Now that they're both gone I've realized a few things.

a.) Sometimes there's nothing you can do to change the situation, but you can make the best of it.

b.) Unconditional love will never be defined by distance.

My brother Dan served in the army about seven years ago and whether he was in basic training or Afghanistan, I couldn't wait to Skype or write him letters in only red or blue.. because that's totally the American thing to do.

At one point in his service, I had no idea Dan came home from leave. He surprised me and woke me up for school the morning he got home. I still can't even explain the pure joy in my heart that morning!!

A picture of his daughter had me giggling so hard. She's only four, absolutely beautiful, and going to have to deal with everything I did growing up...(she won't be able to date until she's married hehe).

a.) I don't call him enough either.. Truthfully, some people you just can't call enough, you still unbearably miss them.

b.) Whether it be a picture of his family or he's telling me he's moved up in his job again, I'll always be proud of him as a person. Just because there's only like 1,000 miles between us doesn't mean I don't get overly excited for him. Actually, it makes me hate the miles between us even more.

In high school, my last thought was adding another LDR. After two years of dating my high school sweetheart, we parted ways and went to different colleges. It's takes prayer, patience, trust, and a lot of communication to go so long without seeing my better half. The 48 hours that seem to go by way too fast, are some of the best times we've had together. Yeah, it's not easy but honestly what relationship is?

So out of this crazy mess, what have I learned?

a.) I'm don't fear as much. I've always been a fearful person. Enough that my mom would have to introduce me to friends when we went camping. I never been exactly 'confident' which plays a huge factor into relationships. I've gotten pretty worked up over basically nothing on the phone with Matt. I've questioned my ability in being a girlfriend, am I good enough, what if he meets someone better... the list goes on.

Matt and I are complete opposites because the boy walks with peace and calmness in any crisis while I'm going in circles how not having a clue what to do. Although I worry, he reassures me what's true and reminds me of the truth.

b.) Whether you're in a LDR or with your better half all of the time, you have to intentionally date. Sometimes, we invest our time together in movies, electronics, or other things that distract us away from interacting with each other. We don't get every night or even every weekend now, so we go on really cool dates now, talk about our day, and learn more about each other than ever.

c.) Saying goodbye will never ever ever get any easier. period.

d.) I trust frat boys now. It's a miracle.

5.) Morgie, Dani, and Hannah: my sweet CofO sisters. It felt like a break-up when I transferred schools without them. We survived a year without our cars (it's a College of the Ozarks thing), daily cafe food, General, Organic, Bio-Chemistry, and just getting through our first year away from home together. I've never laughed or cried at 2 a.m. so hard with anyone in my life. We still have a group text and when we see each other, it's like time hasn't passed. Soooo....

a.) You can NEVER replace sisters.

b.) We still visit each other and it will never ever ever get any easier to say goodbye. Also, sometimes you have to be spontaneous with distance. On weekends that you and said friend don't have to work or have homework (which are very rare and impossible to plan) you drive two hours to see said friend.. :)


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What It's Like Having Long Distance Best Friends

How to learn to live without your best friends.
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Everyone has that best friend that lives super close to them and they see each other every day, but most people also take that for granted.

In high school, the main topic of conversation is how excited everyone is to move out and to go to college, especially this time of year when we are so close to summer.

That is extremely bittersweet though. If your story is anything like mine, college means moving away from your best friends and meeting new best friends who live on different ends of the country. Long distance friendships mean not talking every day, communicating mostly by texting, trying to find new best friends who compare to your old ones, and learning to be you without your shield of friends who became family.

One of the most difficult parts about leaving your best friends for college is getting used to not talking on an everyday basis. Going from seeing each other every day, and taking it for granted, to sometimes texting every day is hard, but it helps you find out who you are. As a freshman in college, all of the people around me and I are all trying to find out who we are.

Everyone was put into an old dorm, with a ton of new faces, and sometimes, none of your friends. This was the case for me, and although it was hard and getting used to being without my best friends was tough, it has helped me to find out who I am. Along with that, I have made new friendships and found new best friends.

The difficult part about meeting best friends at school is that you are together every day for 2/3 of the year, and then you leave each other in May, and go months without each other. In my case, some of my best friends literally do live on the other side of the country as me. After learning how hard it is to move away from my best friends, I have also learned to appreciate my time and to live in the moment.

Learn to live in the moment and don't take for granted the amazing people that you are surrounded by!

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