10 Secrets To Staying Close With Your High School Bestie

10 Secrets To Staying Close With Your Hometown Besties In College

No matter what people say, it's possible to stay best friends forever.

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My hometown best friends and I were truly inseparable in high school. Seriously, we spent every waking moment together. But when the time came for us to go away for college, each of us chose a different path. We became long distance best friends overnight. Three years later, despite the distance between us and the infrequent visits, we have managed to remain the closest of friends. So if you want to know the secrets to remaining friends with your hometown besties in college, you've come to the right place.

1. Send lots of text messages.

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Take a few minutes out of your day to text your best friends. A simple "how are you?" text can go a long way.

2. Talk on the phone as much as you can.

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We all know that texting is not the most effective means of communication, so try giving your bestie an old fashioned ring on the phone whenever you can.

3. Surprise your friends with snail mail.

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Everyone loves getting little surprises in the mail. Sending your best friends a card for their birthday or face mask before finals in the mail is a simple way to say I love you and I'm cheering you on!

4. Plan to go home on the same weekends.

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Always be sure to let your hometown best friends know when you're planning to visit home. Chances are, they'll meet you there!

5. Make attending important life events a priority

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From birthdays and engagement parties to breakups and crises, it's imperative that you show up for your friends. Experiencing the ups and downs of life together will keep you closer than anything else.

6. Visit each other at college

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Trust me, visiting your friends at college is always worth it. You'll finally understand why your bff can't stop talking about that cute little coffee shop on the corner.

7. Make an effort to get to know their college friends.

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Making time to get to know your friend's friends will make all of your conversations easier. Plus, it's always nice to meet the new people in your best friend's life.

8. Take a fun trip together.

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Planning a fun trip together is an intentional way to spend time with your besties from high school, even if it's just for a weekend. This will give you plenty of time to catch up, and you'll make new memories while you're at it.

9. Share the details of your life with them.

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Never stop including your hometown friends the latest news and drama of your life. They are your biggest fans and lifelong supporters, so keep them in the loop.

10. Just show up when they need you.

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This is the ultimate rule of friendship. Just show up when your friends need you, and everything else will fall into place.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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