Loneliness tries to force our mindset into saying we must have a companion to aid us and make us not feel so secluded. Loneliness tries to tell us that we aren’t meant to be in the place that we currently are, thus meaning that it is time to move. And my favorite of all, loneliness tries to make a way of shaking us up and telling us that we aren’t stable enough to stand by ourselves during this season.
To gather the right ammunition against this big bad enemy you first have to understand whom you are going versus.
For one: loneliness doesn’t care about your stuff. This meaning that it doesn’t matter if you are the most affluent, the least popular, or even just a somebody in between. Not to be insensitive, but this is the mindset of our enemy who is giving everything it has in order to make us feel less than.
Secondly: loneliness has no boundaries as to how far it will go to hurt you. It will use the distance of close friends, the breakup in a relationship, or even just place you in a situation that makes you feel discontent with where you are both physically and emotionally.
Loneliness doesn’t want you to know the power of being by yourself; it wants you to forget that you best understand yourself when you have the capacity to sit and ponder where your heart truly stands. It wants you to forget that in order to actually have something deep around you change you first have to have that deep inward change that makes you okay alone.
If you are anything like me you love to have “quantity time,” which is basically just where you surround yourself with lots of friends and keep yourself talking so that you don’t have to spend your time cooped up in your room. But really there comes a point where both you and myself have to realize that as valuable as quantity time is it really has no comparison as to the reward that quality time alone brings.
Hence the reason we should go to battle.
We have to fight with our confidence and know that distance isn’t always as dark as it seems. We have to fight with truth and only go with what we know rather than what we feel. We have to fight with what we are given and not assume the unknown. We have to have to believe that what is needed will be provided.
Loneliness isn’t going to quit attacking you just because you raise your white flag in surrender to it. No! The only way that it is going to realize you are not the person to mess with is if you are determined to live justified without having hesitation that being by yourself is beneficial. You have to desire those moments of growth and flourish when they randomly become available.
How else will you determine the life you’re meant to live if you don’t ever spend time where no one else is making that decision for you?
