Where do I begin?
The world is a mean place. A place where the life of a girl is hard at times. I am not a extreme feminist in any way, but every single female should agree that women deserve equal pay. We are no less than a man who has the same profession.
Men are not cat called in the streets.
Men are not looked up in down by a female with that look in their eye
Men are not called a slut for wearing crop top or a skirt
Men are not worried about walking to the car at night
Men are not told to carry pepper spray in case you get attacked or raped
Men are not rape targets as much as females are
Men are not utterly obsessed with their body image
Men are not afraid to walk in the dark
Men are not the 1 in 5 women who get raped in college
Men are praised for having sex
Men are praised for treating a girl poorly
Men do not have the 'housewife' title
Men are not degraded
Men are not called explicit names for being a confident and headstrong individual
I completely believe that men and women are equal. This is my viewpoint and I know yours may be different. To the girl reading this, I know you remember a time where you felt uneasy by a man's stare. To the guy reading this, thank you for taking your time to see an insight into my world.
As women we become stronger by anything thrown our way. I think it's just how God decided to make us. We need to stand strong. To not let society standards dull our shine. You are here for a reason, believe me. Life is not worthless. It's ok to be vulnerable at times, I was. Then it turned me into the strongest woman I have ever been with a whole different outlook on life. I'll show you just how vulnerable I was.
When I was 16 I became very damaged and broken because I gave all my power to someone. Which is giving someone the permission to break you. All I dealt with was someone with control issues and being a possession. You could see how my body was dealing with this. All I did was sleep to escape how I felt, which was nothing but pain. I felt worthless. I stopped eating and lost over 10 pounds. Soon, I weighed only 100 pounds. I wanted to quit sports. I wanted to quit ski racing.. which is my life. I cried everyday for months. I told myself if this continues I need to see someone. I lived with hearing nothing but negative words surrounding my being. This person didn't know what they were doing to me. I didn't know when i would snap out of this but I always knew I would somehow. I would lay on my floor in the dark crying, not wanting to live. I never was going to end it, but the fact that someone can make you feel like this is very powerful. I Understand how you feel. I am your living proof, your sense of hope that you can too make it out.
A month after that night i spent laying on my floor in the dark, I found my self-worth. This was God. I know for a fact he did this to me because he need me to be stronger. I was on cloud 9 and no one could take that away from me. Everything came to me; I realized that I am worth more than he could ever give to me. That is what I needed. Girls, many of you do not realize the warning signs and red flags in relationships. Emotional, Verbal, Physical; Abuse is abuse. You are complete on your own. Do not get used for your body. Rise above him. If you are suffering do not give up. The world is harsh but you are strong enough. No matter who you are, what you look like, who you like, what color your skin is, you are beautiful just the way you are. I am only 18 but this is what I am so passionate about, helping those broken girls get back up. I learned a lot about myself when I found my worth; I found myself. You will be broken down only to rise to your highest. When you rise, you will stand taller than ever before. You will soon want to thank them, for doing this to you. Only because it made you into the strongest, confident, & bold woman. Which is intimidating in 'man's world'. This world will tear you apart, you will get told you aren't good enough, you will feel like you've lost, you will have to compete with men, but don't you dare stand for this. Pick yourself up and remember who you are. You are a beautiful and strong woman who can handle her own and does not need anyone to tell you what you cannot conquer in this life. The world is yours and anything is possible if you believe in yourself. I encourage you to find yourself too, that is your mission. No one else can do it for you. Your soulmate is out there. Never give up on your life. Time heals heartbreak, time makes you strong, and in time you will find yourself.
I promise when you do, you will never go back to the broken girl you used to see in the mirror. To girls everywhere, this my message to you. I hope it inspired you. You are more than the negative words. You are you. You are a survivor.
