It seems like aesthetic is everything nowadays, especially if you work a lot on social media. When I look at the creators I admire, they all have their own lifestyle or their own brand. I see types of creators and the how their styles are so consistent. Consistency is key, or at least that is how the saying goes.

As I've just finished my sophomore year of college, it feels like so much of the thinking and talking I do is based on the identity I plan to box myself into. People ask me what I study, and what I plan to do with it and everyone is so ready to squeeze me into a box.

For the past two years, I have felt this pressure to "find myself" to "create an identity." But here's the thing, the more I've thought about it, the more ridiculous it is to me. don't get me wrong, I love an aesthetic as much as the next person, but more important than boxing yourself into an aesthetic is living a life that makes you happy.

I've tried so hard to find a style, to pick a favorite music genre, to pick a favorite era of film, to pick a type of photography, to read a genre of books, and honestly, I don't want to decide.

Some days, I listen to Frank Sinatra with my pearls and Charlotte Brontë. Other days, I pull on some fishnets and a leather skirt as I walk around blasting classic rock in my headphones. Sometimes I want to curl my hair, paint my face with makeup, and get dressed up, but that doesn't mean I won't want to throw my hair up, pull on some hiking boots and go on an adventure the next day.

I've realized that if I try to box myself into one identity, or one aesthetic, then I miss out on other things I love. Missing out isn't worth it. In the past two years, there are some things I have figured out about who I want to be.

I want to be unique, rather than copying the same tired paths that everyone follows. Sure, people follow them because they work, but they're also overdone.

I want to put my energy into creating things that make myself and other people happy. If it isn't promoting positivity or at least positive change, then it isn't worth the time and energy. There's enough negativity already.

I want to help people. Even little things can make a huge difference. Volunteer at a local shelter, help build a house with Habitat for Humanity, clean up trash around town, make someone smile. No act is too small.

From now on, I want my aesthetic to be more than filters, music, and fashion because, at the end of the day, none of that really matters.

Livsnjutare. That's what matters.

Livsnjutare is the Swedish word that means "someone who loves life deeply and lives it to the extreme."

Livsnjutare cannot be put into a box, it can't even be translated exactly to English. Extremes cannot be put into a box. Don't worry about everyone else and their boxes. In fact, don't even try to think outside the box. Try to live outside of the box.

Do the things you love, with the people you love. Let yourself live without limits and throw consistency to the wind. Just be passionate, be positive and be you.