Life Is Short, Stop Being So Scared To Live It

Life Is Short, Stop Being So Scared To Live It

Why are people so afraid of telling others what they want in life?
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Why are some people so afraid of telling others what they want in life? They are scared to tell people they like them, they are nervous to stand up to their parents, they are unsure about taking a class, they are hesitant to tell a guy no, etc. They are so caught up in telling themselves that they cannot do something or that what people are asking of them is so out of the ordinary that they scare themselves from actually taking initiative in their life.

It is something that makes me really upset because my perspective on this is completely different. I grew up seeing what happens to people when they do not stand up for what they want in life and in the more extreme circumstances, the worst often ensues. Do you know why? Because when people become so afraid to tell others what they want in life, they hand over the power in their life.

By power, I mean, when you do not take initiative in your own life, you are basically allowing the people around you to make decisions for you, even if it may be indirectly.

Life is way too short to be letting those around you dictate what you should be doing in your life or how your life is run.

Let me break this down even further. If you are constantly going through life at the final judgments of others, you will never be happy.

Why do you have to wait for the guy to tell you what your relationship is? You will be waiting forever for that guy to open up when you could have stated your intentions at the beginning and spent those same six months being a happy couple.

When I give this example, I will typically have those same people say, “what if the relationship doesn’t work out?” To that I say, the relationship not working out is not because you spoke your mind, it ended because it probably wasn’t meant to be and now you can move on to someone else. And as mentioned before why do you want to prolong the dismay of a relationship when you can find out now if it is something you are looking for or not.

By saying all this, I am basically getting at the idea to live for yourself!

I am not saying to be selfish because living for yourself and being selfish are two very different things.

Living for yourself means to stop being so scared to tell people what you want in your life.

Stop waiting for other people to take the initiative with major decisions of your life. Obviously, there are times where you do need to consult others and their opinion and stance on issues is very important. However, when it is decisions that are more you centered, don’t hesitate to state your opinions boldly and confidently.

I see so many people on campus so scared to make the first moves in relationships, in organizations, at work, in life in general that they are constantly complaining about why their life is the way it is. I know it is hard and this definitely does not come naturally to everyone, but I promise not being scared to take initiatives is what will help you the most when it comes to taking back your life.

Life is so short folks, don’t be afraid to live it.

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40 Small Things That Make College Students Happy

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1. When class is canceled.

2. When the coffee shop you stop at five minutes before your 8 a.m. has a short line.

3. Coffee, coffee, coffee.

4. Open note tests.

5. Or even better, take home tests.

6. The unofficial assigned seating process that that takes place after the first week or so of classes.

7. Thursday nights. (because in college, Thursday qualifies as the weekend.)

8. Sales.

9. Or once again, even better, free things.

10. Specifically free food.

11. Dogs.

12. Dogs on campus.

13. Tailgates and Saturday afternoon football games.

14. Finding an already completed Quizlet for your exam.

15. Having an extra 30 minutes for a nap, and if you're lucky, an hour.

16. Netflix.

17. When your roommate takes out the trash.

18. Weekends after test weeks.

19. The rare blessing of a curve on an exam.

20. Getting out of class early.

21. How in college, it is socially expectable to wear a t-shirt everyday.

22. Being able to walk from class to class or eat in the dining hall without having to see anyone you know. (and thank goodness too because you probably don't look too good.)

23. Crossing things off of your to-do list.

24. Your best-friends that you make in college.

25. A full tank of gas.

26. Seeing a new face everyday.

27. Crawling back into bed after your 8 or 9 a.m. (or after any class that ends with a.m.)

28. Care packages.

29. No cover charges.

30. When adults tell you that it is okay that you have no idea what you want to do with your life yet. (regardless of what parents or your advisor may say.)

31. Pizza.

32. Finding out you weren't the only one who did poorly on the exam.

33. Deciding not to buy the textbook, and never needing it.

34. Finding the perfect gif to express how you're feeling. (Michael Scott just get it.)

35. Weekends at home because...

36. Pets.

37. Mom's home cooked pie and Dad's steak dinners,

38. Spring Break.

39. Road trips.

40. When it finally starts to cool down outside so you can show up to class dry instead of dripping in sweat.

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Everyone Should Experience Working In Fast Food Or Retail

Working in fast food was definitely not sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows, but I'm so glad I did it.

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I know these jobs aren't glamorous. In fact, most days I looked forward to clocking out before I had even clocked in. I always secretly rolled my eyes when an angry customer droned on and on about how entitled he or she was. Though I can name a lot of bad things that happened on the job, it wasn't all horrible. As I reflect on my time working in fast food, I realize how much having that job really taught me and how grateful I am to have had that experience. I really think everyone should work in fast food or retail at some point, and here's why:

You make some great friends from work. I get it, sometimes your co-workers are royal jerks or flat out creeps. You see your name on the schedule next to theirs and immediately try switching with someone else. I've been there. However, I have worked with some amazing people as well.

Every time I worked with one girl in particular, we laughed for entire shifts. One night, we were singing the national anthem at the top of our lungs without realizing a customer had come in (to our surprise, she applauded our terrible screaming). Another coworker and I turned up the radio on full blast when business was slow and had dance battles. We made the most of our shifts, and I still talk to some of these people today.

You learn how to deal with difficult people. It's the age-old story: the uppity customer thinks twelve dollars for a meal combo is outrageous and Where is your manager?!

My friend and I were once called stupid and a customer said he would never come back to our restaurant to eat ever again. At the moment, we were scared out of our minds because we were both pretty new to the job. As time passed, we became more patient and tolerant and knew what triggered these particular customers. Dealing with these adversities definitely helps in the long run, particularly when it comes to doing group work with people who seem unbearable.

Your people skills increase by a landslide. I had always thought that I was great with people before I had a job. However, when I found myself in situations where I had to talk to strangers, I would grow nervous and stumble across my words from time to time. Working in an environment where communicating with others is a driving force helped me not only with improving my public speaking, but also made me more outgoing. In situations where I once backed into the corner to avoid having to talk to someone, I now take charge and initiate a conversation.

You establish a connection with regular customers. My favorite customer was named Jack. He was the sweetest old man who came in every Wednesday and Friday and bought food for himself and his wife. I quickly memorized his order, which impressed him. We shared pleasantries every time he came in, and my coworkers and I looked forward to seeing him.

Establishing a relationship with people who come in a lot helps immensely when it comes to working. It also provides a sense of accomplishment when you memorize an order. Not to mention, the customers start to like you and typically leave a generous tip!

You have stories to tell for a lifetime! Sometimes bad things happen at work. Once I was holding a hot pan and burned my arm— I still have the burn mark on my arm to prove it. My point is, it sucked at the moment, but now I look back and laugh.

One time I asked my coworker how to make soup and she replied, "Slowly, but beautifully." It was so nonchalant that I cracked up for hours. There was also a time when a customer asked me for outlandish toppings and condiments that we didn't offer. The craziest story, though, was the drug deal that went down in our public restrooms. My coworker and I obviously could not leave our station and follow these people into the bathroom, so we were pretty much defenseless. Nobody got hurt or anything, so it made for a great story.

Working in fast food was definitely not sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows, but I'm so glad I did it. It made me more independent and outgoing and gave me memories I'll never forget.

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