Girls Who Lift

From Deadlifts To Sherri Hill, Get Yourself A Girl Who Can Do It All.

I'm not the same girl I was when I started my fitness journey and that is the best part.


When I was 16 I started look at myself differently in the mirror. I noticed more things that I hated about myself than like, I could tell that my thighs were bigger than anyone else's on my cheer team, my shoulders were too wide, and I had the traps of a man. I was beyond ashamed of the way I looked and I was determined that was why I wasn't in a relationship, why I wasn't happy with my life, and why I was so lost. 16 is a hard year, many adults don't remember being 16 and feeling those big emotions. Life is big and scary when you're young and don't know what's going on. Things are 100 times worse than they are and you feel so hopeless and lost. I remember that feeling, I remember feeling so lost and uncomfortable with myself that I didn't want to leave my house or see my friends.

I found myself skipping meals, lifting weights every day after school, running at least 3 miles every other day to try and improve how I looked. I was going overboard but no one was going to stop me. I can remember pausing at every mirror in our hallways or in the locker room to look at my stomach and see how flat it was getting, or I would snap a hair tie on my wrist when I was craving food that I smelt from the lunch room because I didn't want to eat. Eventually, I started going home on my lunch hour so nobody would wonder why I wasn't eating and that seemed to get people off my back for a bit. Graduation came and I probably weighed 100 pounds soaking wet, but I thought I was perfect.

Fast forward to college and things were very different for me. I was struggling to get myself to go to the dining center to eat meals everyday, I had made my class schedule so jam packed that I wasn't allowing myself time to sleep without having a massive amount of homework. When I became friends with everyone on my floor in the dorms, I was going out almost every single weekend to the "football" or "hockey" houses. I started to feel better, I was going out, people were holding me accountable for my meals, but I was beginning to fell guilty. All of the "hard work" I thought I had put into my body was going away and I was starting to gain my weight back. I thought it was the end of the world, but in all reality; it's what saved me.

Fitness isn't about being a size 0, 2, 4, 0r even a size 6. It's about keeping yourself healthy and happy while taking care of your bodies needs. If you happen to eat McDonalds one night, you're not going to instantly gain 20 pounds or have a heart attack. Everything is fine if you're eating it in moderation. I allowed myself to become drastically too small but I also went overboard regaining my weight back and ended up the heaviest I had even been. Miss North Dakota help me realize what I was doing to my body. Yes, I was working out; but only a few times a month, I wasn't eating right, I was partying too much and I wasn't allowing my body to hold and take in the nutrients it needed to survive. I was slowly allowing my body to fail and failing at accomplishing my dream job as Miss North Dakota.

When 2018 rolled around, I knew it was time to make a change. One of my best friends had just become a personal trainer and I decided to take the plunge and ask for help. She gave me a meal plan, helped me learn what a macro was, and gave me a workout like no other. I have always been a HUGE fan of lifting weights, but she is the reason I fell in love with them again. She pushed me to not only work hard in the gym, but fight for myself and what I deserve out of life. I began to quickly see results and this time, they were not drastic. They were steady results of eating the right foods, allowing myself a cheat snack every so often, letting myself feel free form starvation and everything in between. I was finally happy with where I was in life. I knew that once I started going, no one was going to stop me from chasing this dream.

I have been told over and over again that I can't lift because I'm a girl, I'm not "fit" enough, I look like a fool in the weight room, and so many other things by people who are lifting LESS WEIGHT THAN ME. Uh...excuse me? I don't think so. Girls can do whatever they set their minds to do. We are a force that can't be stopped once we get going with something. I am a powerful female who will work hard to not only create a healthy lifestyle for myself with the help of my friends and my new coaches, but I will work hard to earn my dream job. I, in no way, expect that crown to be handed to me. I will work for the job of a lifetime. It's not about who has the best dress or hair; it's about who is best meant to hold that job and I know I am her. I am a powerhouse who can not only life weights at the gym, but put on a crown and a gown and walk on a stage in heels to show I can speak to thousands of people to get my message across.

So boys, date the girl who can do more than just go watch you in the gym. Your girl will be your biggest cheerleader and spotter when you're lifting and everything else in life. We all struggle, and I found my sanity in lifting and if a guy can't wrap his head around that, it's not worth it to me. If lifting isn't your cup of tea, find what is and run with it. Don't let anyone tell you it's not.

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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Part 1: Necessary Changes

One of my favorite movies is "Fried Green Tomatoes" with Kathy Bates. In the movie Bates' character Evelyn Couch says, "Someone helped put a mirror up in front of my face, and I didn't like what I saw one bit. And you know what I did? I changed." I know the feeling.


I looked in the mirror over the weekend and didn't like what I saw.

The person I saw looking back at me is petty, selfish, manipulative, and unattractive. It wasn't that I hated what I saw, but I definitely didn't like what I saw either. It's a surreal feeling, looking at yourself through a critical lens, and it doesn't make you feel good in any way shape or form.

The image that I see of myself is not how I want others to perceive me. I want to be someone that people look at and see kindness, compassion, strength, and confidence.

I have enough general life experience to know that these types of changes aren't going to happen overnight, and not all of them will be physical; most of these will have to happen from the inside, from within myself.

When you find out you are all broken and damaged, it's hard to know where to start putting the pieces back together. I figured the best place to start would be the most literal: my actual insides; so, I decided to embark on a deep-cleansing journey to get all of the toxins out of my body, from the inside out.

I found this book on 10-day green smoothie detox stashed away in the dark corner of my bookshelf. The science behind it seems accurate and legitimate. By eliminating certain foods, your body is able to detox itself off of chemicals and foods that are slowing down your metabolism; the smoothies are specifically designed with combinations of foods that help restart your metabolism. Part of the detox process is getting rid of all dependencies on caffeine, alcohol, and sugar.

Every day you are given the recipe for a specific smoothie; you make the smoothie (about 40 ounces) and sip on it throughout the day whenever you get hungry. Every smoothie is a combination of leafy greens, water, fruit, and flax seeds. If you do happen to get hungry throughout the day, you are encouraged to eat raw nuts, hard boiled eggs, and a wide variety of crunchy green vegetables. There is also a detox tea that you have first thing in the morning, but other than that no other beverages are allowed except water.

I know that this is only the beginning of a very long, emotional, and draining journey. But I think I'm at the point in my life where I have to make these changes. I have to put my pieces together, I have to become a normal functioning adult, I have to find out who I am. I think that this is the perfect way to start.

For the next 10 days I am going to be documenting my experiences, how I'm feeling, what my emotions are doing, and any results that I see.

Stay tuned!

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