Everyone has a day or a circumstance that really makes you think that you’ll never make it or recover from such a thing. We get so wrapped up in all the things going wrong that it seems the world is against us. Sometimes that is just the way it is supposed to happen. It’s so easy to be completely set in your ways and have a perfect picture of your future. The one MINOR thing we don’t include in our future is the idea of change or a different path, one that might just be a better one… in the long run.
Maybe there are some things we never truly “recover” from or we just aren’t the same after such an event. After all, those things help shape us into who we are, who we are meant to be, and exactly the way it is supposed to happen.
The events that we “think” we never recover from can range from a bad grade to the person we thought we would spend the rest of our life with. Yet a crazy thing happens; life moves on. Whether you like it or not the clock continuously ticks, the sun goes down and rises again, and you’re a step closer to recovering. Lets be real, every girl is dramatic, to a certain degree. So yes, I, along with other women DO think we will never make it to another day. Luckily, we do.
GOSSIP AND DRAMA
What someone says about you will always reflect on them more than it will you. Just because someone feels the need to belittle you, why would you allow him or her to make yourself believe what it NOT true? Yes, I do agree hearing people talk about you in a negative way is not a day-maker, but rather it should serve as motivation, to always be a better you, despite what anyone has to say. Gossip does not define nor shape you. You are YOU, so stay true to yourself because at the end of the day, you must manage to be your own best friend.
LETTING YOUR PAST HAUNT YOU
The past is the past. As much as we would love to go back, take a different turn, or just be a completely different person, we cannot. Your past mistakes were mistakes, forgive yourself. If you continue to hold on to what is toxic and forcing you to think you won’t make it to another day, mentally you will not. You will waste your precious time stuck over what cannot be undone. Little do you know that one day down the road, you will be thankful because the past paved a better path for you.
SELF DECEPTION
Let’s face it, our biggest critic is ourself. The fact is that no one judges you more than yourself, not only is it scary, but sad. It is always said to forgive your enemies, but you are your biggest enemy, focus on forgiving yourself! Just because you don’t think you are as “pretty” (the definition of pretty is undefined, regardless of what you think!) as the girl next to you, or as “skinny” as your best friend, what is criticizing yourself going to do? You continuously torture your mind thinking you are not good enough and you think you’ll never get over this feeling. LOVE YOURSELF! You are everything to someone, , treat yourself like that. Embrace your beauty and hold your head high. Beauty is only skin deep.
YOUR FAILING TEST GRADE
Yes, grades are important, they tower over just about everything. But, do not stress over the one mistake you have made, that one test you didn’t study enough for, the homework you forgot to do, these are MISTAKES. Mistakes are not traps! They are not there to make your mind think that things will never get better. Use that as motivation to try harder the next time. Learn the definition of mistake and understand how to differentiate between a mistake and an intentional problem. You are young, not perfect. In that case, if you do fail that test or mess up, life truly goes on. Don’t let it happen again, but don’t beat yourself up for trying. Remember, you get what you prepare for: so BE prepared!
THE PERSON YOU THINK YOULL NEVER GET OVER
YOU DO. Bottom line, you get over it, there are over 7 billion people walking this earth, move over and allow them to walk right by you, next to you, but never over you. It’s true, you probably did love that person, thought they were “The One” and it turned out he wasn’t. Whether you were at fault, he was, or as Taylor Swift would say, “People are people and sometimes it just doesn’t work out,” you will be okay. Time is your best friend when you lose the one you love, but don’t forget to be your own best friend. Put yourself first and remember they helped you grow whether it was the outcome you expected. Forgive yourself and them for whatever makes you think your life won’t go on. Mainly, focus on yourself and build yourself up. I promise, you get over it, you will recover, and later on down the road you will be happy it worked out the way it did.
LOSING A LOVED ONE
There truly isn’t anything one can say or do when the passing of a loved one occurs. It is heart wrenching, painful, and downright sad. You torture yourself with the idea of what you should have or could have done in your mind over and over again. You blame yourself, as if you really had some say in how it all happened. Cry and mourn because there is not a quick fix for it, but do not torture yourself. Instead, turn your mindset to the idea of having someone is truly looking down on you and helping guide you through your life. Isn’t that an amazing thing? You have someone who is guarding your heart, listening to your cries, and watching over you. As forsaken as you may feel, find comfort in your heart and mind to understand that you are recovering with a guardian angel that will truly never forsake you.
These are only a few things we force ourselves to think that we wont recover from. Only to find out that we do, we recover and we are stronger than ever. Be resilient, strong enough to bounce back from whatever comes your way and take that event or circumstance to your benefit. Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that does not serve you, grow you or make you happy. Give yourself a break, things are happening EXACTLY how they are supposed to. Stop looking and expecting “perfect”! You are flawed, I am flawed, we are all flawed: embrace it. Loosen your grip on the past. The past is the past, the bottom line is that you will recover. The best is yet to come and the future ahead of you is beyond your control. Imagine the possibilities and let it come smoothly.
