Life Is Unexpected, So Love More And Laugh Often

Life Is Unexpected, So Love More And Laugh Often

Anything can happen, make your life worth while.


The past week and a half have been a lot for me. I have attended my first funeral, my brother went to the ER, and my Great-Aunt needed a ride to the hospital. Now is the time for me to be focusing on school and getting everything ready for that, but when it rains, it pours. Everything is happening all at once. I can't put into words how crazy this past week has been. It has been one thing after another. But I guess, that's just life.

My best friend's mother passed away unexpectedly last week. She texted me about it while I was at work. I couldn't believe it at first. I was in shock. It didn't hit me until I finished my break and got back to work. I ended my shift in hysterics; I was crying all throughout the store. I had to answer customer questions with red-rimmed eyes, tear-stained cheeks, and a wavering voice. I didn't know what to say or do. I just wanted to see my best friend. I couldn't even imagine what she was going through. On the drive home, I sobbed the entire way home. It was the most vocal, most emotional cry I've ever had.

The craziest part of it all was that I just saw her mom a few days before she died. I kept thinking that if I went to her house, her mom would be sitting on the couch watching TV. It just didn't feel real. I hung out at her house with her sister and our other best friend. The four of us watched 'Brooklyn Nine-Nine' on repeat, dumb James Charles videos, two play productions from our high school, and try not to laugh videos. I have to say, I haven't laughed that much in a while. We were all having a good time, not even thinking about what had happened. There were brief moments, but that was expected with something like this. I just needed her to know that I am here for her and her family, and I think that helped her a little.

The day after this unexpected death, my brother was taken to the ER. He had had some eye problems for a few days prior, trouble moving them from side to side quickly, not being able to sleep, having to wear sunglasses at all times of the day, and fearing driving. He went to an eye center to get everything checked out, but he fainted when they put drops in his eyes. He was nervous and never had drops put into his eyes like that before.

When he came to, the specialist told my dad that he needs an MRI. That what is causing this eye pain could be MS, which is a disease that eats away at the nervous system. They went to the ER and I went home with my little sister. We were texted updates and my brother and dad didn't get home until nearly ten o'clock at night. They were dealing with this for nine hours. It was a long day for both of them. We were told that the MRI came up clear, which was a huge relief, and a neurologist prescribed some steroids to help the pain. He has since been taking it easy at home, taking baby shifts at work to help the healing process, and taking frequent naps. And with periodical check-ups, he's said to have a quick recovery.

While my brother and dad were busy with that, my grandma called the house and said that their car wouldn't start, and my great-aunt needed to get to her doctor's appointment. My aunt is on her third type of cancer and I wanted to do anything I could to help with that process. So, my sister and I drove to my grandma's house, picked her up, then went to my aunt's condo. We drove to the hospital for her appointment and she thanked me many times. I said it was not a problem. Since I'm away at school for most of the year, I'm not around to help with this any other time. I was glad I was able to help her through this. This round of cancer has been her worst so far, and I was glad I could be there. Even if it was only a ride.

I am writing this article to communicate a message: life can change at any moment, so don't take the things and people you love for granted. Hug your mom when she wants. Let your parents move you into your college dorm. See your grandparents regularly if you are able. Be with family or friends every day. Make memories, good or bad, you will remember them all. Take countless pictures because those are what you are going to look back on in the years to come. When you're older, you're not going to regret spending all this time with your loved ones. You're going to regret not doing it sooner.

Family is the most important part of any life, don't take them for granted. If they live far away, make a point of visiting them. Just make a point to be active in their lives. It'll be so, so worth it.

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To The Girl Who Always Feels Left Out

Maybe next time...

To the girl who always feels left out,

Girl, let me just tell you, I know the feeling. It feels as though my whole life, I have been that girl. You know that feeling when you are standing in a group of people and someone comes up and asks everyone to go to lunch in that group... But you?

Or they make it even worse by saying "Oh, I guess you can come too." You guess I can come to?

No, thank you.

At that point, you feel like the only reason you are being invited is that they feel like they have to. Which more than likely is actually the case. What about when you ask your friend to hang out and she can't because she will be doing homework all night? However, an hour later, you see her with your other best friend. Oh okay cool, sorry for bothering you with my friendship.

You know you are the girl who is always left out when you are the designated "photographer" or you have to specifically ask if you can take a picture with them because they are obviously done taking pictures and did not want one with you.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who 'Float' Between Friend Groups

We all know "Hey, will you take this picture of us?" all too well. Am I right, ladies? Oh yeah, it is fine. I hate being in pictures. I definitely hate taking pictures to remember this wonderful time I'm having.

What about when you and your friends discuss doing something later during the week and you ask about it but "It's probably not happening anymore." Then you check and would you look at that, your "friends" are having fun without you.


Oh but don't worry about it, I had things to do anyway. You know, clean the house, work on homework that is due next week, binge-watch The Office for the third time this week. Fun stuff. Oh and better yet when you see your friends are hanging out without you. The next time they see you, they talk about how much fun they had.

Oh yes, please tell me about how much fun you had without me. I totally enjoy hearing about how "I totally missed out" and "I should have come." Well, an invite would have been well appreciated. But maybe next time, right? Wrong.

Yeah, I know what you are thinking, "Wow this girl is being so petty." Well if you are thinking that, then you obviously do not know the feeling. And to think about it, you probably are not the one in the friend group who is being left out. So think about who that person is and make them feel included next time. It would be greatly appreciated. You do not know how much of a difference it could make.

Yes, I know everyone feels left out sometimes, but time after time, it starts to get really old. Then after you have to start inviting yourself to hang out with people, you realize well since they are not inviting me themselves, maybe they don't want me here. And then surprisingly, you stop hanging out with them. Hmmm, I wonder what could've possibly happened.

Yes, I know, most people do not do this on purpose. I am sure I have even done it once or twice without realizing it, and I am truly sorry.

From one left out girl to another,

Good Luck

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A Poem: My Mother

In honor of Mother's Day, that was on the 12th, here is a poem dedicated to my mother.


To the only person who can be my mentor, friend, and leader at the same time

To someone who would make me read my own books before bedtime

And puts everything down to make sure there is a smile on my face

To the person that I find impossible to ever replace.

Somehow you are always right even when it seems wrong

And when the worst does happen, how do you still manage to stay so strong?

I'm not only impressed but inspired by you

Knowing that somehow you'll always know me better than I do.

When I'm frustrated and annoy you, you simply try to understand me

Because you have always told me that even when you can't understand, plain acceptance is the key

You have listened to all my laughs, heard me cry, and felt my emotions like they were your own

You are the only reason I am joyous and the security I need to know that I am never alone.

To the only person who has truly taught me how to live

And watched me grow and make mistakes yet still knows how to forgive

Because that's who she is, certainly not like any other

There are many women but none like my own mother.

Happy Mother's Day!

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